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TheThunderRolls (original poster member #74784) posted at 6:33 PM on Thursday, January 14th, 2021
I’m so sick of my narcissistic WH I got fed up and went off on him & asked for a divorce. I’m so angry right now and I’m sure I’ll fall apart later but I did it!!!!
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 10:55 PM on Thursday, January 14th, 2021
Strength to you TTR. The right path is the one in which you value yourself. You deserve the best. Keep moving ahead. Good luck.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 12:51 AM on Friday, January 15th, 2021
So proud of you! One day at a time and just keep moving forward. You are a rockstar🌟
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Hippo16 ( member #52440) posted at 1:16 AM on Friday, January 15th, 2021
????
you don't have to "ASK" for a divorce -
You either go to the county courthouse and file petition on your own or you get a lawyer to do it for you
the fun comes with the dissolution of $$$ assets
if you can agree - you will save a lot of $$ rather than argue who gets the goldfish
if you don't agree - process just drags on and on and the lawyers get the $$
you get to make the choice on many of the proceedings regardless of who "files"
just start the process and learn as much as you can
There's no troubled marriage that can't be made worse with adultery."For a person with integrity, there is no possibility of being unhappy enough in your marriage to have an affair, but not unhappy enough to ask for divorce."
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 1:46 AM on Friday, January 15th, 2021
If you really want one - you will get it done.
If it was meant as a threat to get him to change, not sure that will work unless the cheater truly believes you will get a D.
Best of luck.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
keptmyword ( member #35526) posted at 8:24 AM on Saturday, January 16th, 2021
You don’t “ask” your spouse for a divorce.
You “get” a divorce by filing a petition for dissolution of the marriage with the court.
Your spouse doesn’t “give” you a divorce.
You don’t even have to tell them you are filing for divorce.
I never told my XWW I was divorcing her - I simply had my attorney file the petition and that was it.
Your spouse will then have some period of time (something like 20 days, I think) to respond to the petition.
If your spouse fails to respond to the petition in time, then the terms of the divorce will generally be what you initially outlined in the filing.
Don’t “ask” your WH for anything - just do what you need and want to do to get out of his world of infidelity.
It has nothing to do with you.
Filed for and proceeded with divorce.
Westway ( member #71747) posted at 7:34 PM on Monday, January 18th, 2021
Congratulations on taking the first step!
Me: 52;
XWW: 50 y.o. serial cheater
Married 22 years, Together 24
2 Daughters: aged 16 and 20
DDay: 9/20/19
Divorced 12/03/20.
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