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I like your approach to this and the decision to accept and move forward to D.

I think it will serve you well to just move on and remember, the best revenge is a life well lived. Not that you need to say anything to her, but it will get back to her what happens to you and how your life has worked out — without her.

Just be prepared for the possibility she may "change her mind" — especially if the OM dumps her or ends it.

Apropos of nothing, I notice you state he's your "insurance guy". Maybe he should stop being your insurance guy, and you could move your insurance to another provider, or you could request another agent from the same company? State the reasons up front with whomever asks-- you are uncomfortable with the inappropriate relationship he has with your wife and wish to limit contact between them. Period. Make sure it's communicated to his company and they will make the changes if need be. I realize a lot of insurance companies are like franchise operations at the local level, and this tactic might be more impactful if used in a more populate part of VA, like the NoVA area (where I live), Richmond and environs, and the Tidewater area. Those areas have companies with lots of field agents that can transfer clients for the same coverage.

If you want to avoid out and out conflict, you could always just say "I'm dissatisfied with his service" and leave it at that. You are still communicating something important to him-- that you know, and you aren't going to accept things the way they are any more.

Just my .02, worth what you paid for it.

Rex