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YHGTBKM ( member #58437) posted at 8:44 AM on Thursday, March 10th, 2022
"Around the same time I got a very weird and suspicious text from WW saying "hi, my friend Alex (a girlfriend of hers) left her phone in our house last week and I put it somewhere safe to give back to her when I get back to town, just in case you are cleaning or something and come across it"
Well 99% chance this is bullshit because as far as I know Alex hasn't been at our house since 2019, my wife doesn't ever have friends over, and I've been working from home almost all the hours the last year. I didn't say anything but I strongly suspect my wife thinks I found the phone already and is trying to make sure I'm not suspicious of it."
your wife's friends phone has your sons name as the pass code? you only believe that it is 99% chance of it being bullshit?
get a lawyer. the lawyer will download all the evidence and provide you with solid 'next steps'. any good lawyer will get you half of her earnings from her sex tapes so try not to worry about the cost, it is something that you really cannot not afford to do.
Inshreds ( member #58075) posted at 1:02 PM on Thursday, March 10th, 2022
Alldespair - are you okay??
Me: BS Him: WS mid 50's Married 30+ years serial cheater
Fletcher ( new member #72759) posted at 3:51 PM on Thursday, March 10th, 2022
i caught this post a while back and am also hoping OP is doing ok
but i have a question about what the "fireball" icon is. i’m familiar with stop sign, bullseye
MegMeg ( member #79978) posted at 2:36 PM on Sunday, March 13th, 2022
Dear AllDespair - You have a lot of advice here. I only wish to add that the human capacity to protect ourselves against mental trauma by repressing unbearable information is amazingly strong. Your repeated repression of the revelations only shows how trusting you are - a beautiful quality. I, too, am a master at this mental process. It can be very effective in helping to blow off things that we can't change or face, allowing the pure of heart to live a contented life. BUT THIS IS IMPORTANT. THIS IS BAD. We must not allow ourselves to cover up the truth in our own minds.
I could have written these very words, below.
"And there's another part of me that wonders is this just a big misunderstanding? Like will she have some way to explain this that will make it make sense, and make it more clear that what we've had wasn't a lie all along? This doesn't feel like the person I know (or thought I knew) and some small part of me thinks that, like with the call in 2020, this is all just something that can be cleared up somehow."
Every day I must remind myself that the facts ARE TRUE, the facts ARE HORRIBLE, and I have been LIVING A LIE.
I hope you find the peace and tranquility you and your children deserve.
Me: BS | Him: WS | Children: Grown | Married: 36 years at DDay Feb 2021
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