Not strictly related to my 'story', but need an ear to vent to other than WH.
WH has 3 children from a previous marriage, and 6 grandchildren. We tried to have a child together, but it didn't happen, we 'ran out of time biologically', all is good for the most part (aside from what brought me into this group originally, but we are reconciling).
WH's ex-wife has always been toxic. She suffers from alcoholism and mental illness, and even though she is the one who left their marriage, tormented me for years when I first started dating WH (called me to harass me, stole and broke my possessions, etc.). This was almost 20 years ago now. WH has not kept contact with her after their children grew up, and unfortunately because of this toxic woman, his oldest child was poisoned against him - the only contact he has from her is when she calls to ask (demand) something from him - money (usually), help moving, the list goes on.
This daughter reached out to WH this week asking for $. She had moved to a more expensive city with her kids (he found out through her sister), and obviously cannot afford it. He responded by letting her know he could afford to give her $X (less than she asked for) and questioned her choice about moving. She responded with something along the lines of 'I have resigned myself to the fact that you don't want to be a part of my life or the life of my children, but I am a good mother'. Then.....
WH's ex sends a text: "reminding" WH that they have children together that they are responsible for. Saying that because he married me a *gasp* CHILDLESS WOMAN - he is running away from his responsibility. She goes on to say that I am in the dark about the times that they (WH and ex) slept together and about the secret vasectomy he got so that I would remain childless. I'll admit that because of WH's infidelity my heart started pounding. I had to sit down and logically think about this. Even in my wildest nightmare, these allegations could NOT have happened. I have concrete proof. She obviously knew that I would read this text, and that it would upset me.
I hate that this bothers me. Typing it out has helped get it off my mind. Thanks for being an ear