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I have a question that I hope has not previously been discussed. I did not find a thread for it. My question is, has anyone's WS said they swear on your children's lives that nothing (affair, etc.) happened but you find out later it did? If so, was there remorse, shame, apologies? Thank you.

It is unfortunately very, very common for wayward spouses to swear on their children, their parents grave, or any number of other things.

As for your why, it is purely situational. It really doesn't matter whether the majority worked out or not if your WS still has their head in their ass.

[This message edited by farsidejunky at 4:40 AM, Monday, February 20th]

Mine swore on everything and everyone under the sun or in the heavens. All lies. Straight out of the cheaters handbook for sure.

Mine did his mother’s grave quote. I couldn’t believe it when I found out it was a big old lie because he loved his mother very deeply!

Our children’s lives, her dead dad’s grave, you name it, she invoked it and lied straight behind it. I came to believe that the more superficially profound the gravity of her oath, the more likely she was lying.

Yea that is kind of what I thought. When I see her casually and effortlessly lie about insignificant things, I have to believe she is on her A game when it comes to the big things. I just hate trying to figure out if I am wrong and her reaction is legit, or I have hit upon an undisclosed truth and the reaction is next level cover her ass. I appreciate the perspectives.

Before I asked my girlfriend to marry me I asked her if she slept with anybody after we started dating even during fights or walking out in a huff and she said I swear on my first borns eyes. Well guess what, she fucked 6 guys. I Had no idea and got married. Found out 10 yrs later after I had two kids and thankfully they have their sight. Stayed together so I could be around my kids but it's a joke of a marraige, zero respect for her, no such thing as Valentine's day. I shouldofleft.

Raises hand. Yes he did.

It’s so common that there was a lively post and thread on it.

We speculated on the quantity of harmed good Mother’s and children’s souls out there, yanked out of heaven by some jackass trying to cover up their skeezy affair.

I'm just gonna repeat what most people have said here... YES! Multiple times on multiple peoples lives, graves... our children, her parents, dead brother... it goes on. No one's perfect, and there is always context in the relationship, but there is something broken in them that allows them to logic the horrible choices (NOT mistakes) they made. And that's why we find ourselves here.

I'm going to be the odd one out here - when confronted, my wife lied her ass off, said nothing was going on, etc... I asked her, do you swear on your mothers grave? That's when I got the TT, you know, the "ok, there was this ONE time we got close but nothing serious happened"...

I believe "swear on kids/mother/father/pet dog" is page 3 of The Cheater’s Handbook.

We didn’t have kids so he swore on his mother’s life. I wonder if all his accumulated bullshit ever caused her any health problems.

Yes repeatedly.

After Dday1 he swore on his families lives - his grandmother passed away 2 weeks later! The irony of it still makes me smile now.

Swearing on children's lives is another example of his lack of empathy and compulsive lying behaviour.

[This message edited by Notagain6526 at 4:07 PM, Tuesday, February 21st]

Yes my xWS sweared on my children's lives and continued to lie through his teeth all the way up to me leaving him.

We’d been married long enough for me to sense when he was lying - the body language, the eyes, the tells. So no amount of "I swear on mom/dad/kid/dog" whoever was going to convince me that the word’s coming out of his mouth weren't lies so he never tried those lines on me. Some liars lie so often it’s become part of the fabric of who they just are - they do it so often that even they believe the lies. There’s no remorse or shame. Maybe regret that they got caught. But liars lie through their teeth to save face. That’s just what they do. I’m superstitious - so don’t you dare invoke my child’s life in your lie - it’s like calling off work bc grandma dies, but in reality she’s just fine in a casino somewhere playing penny slots. Don’t do it otherwise something might just happen to that person!!

My exWS swore on everyone’s lives. When his mom passed during his lies, he accused me of helping to kill her because I "forced" him to swear (and lie) on her life. Ugh…. Par for the course.

When his mom passed during his lies, he accused me of helping to kill her because I "forced" him to swear (and lie) on her life. Ugh…. Par for the course

So he wasn’t responsible for his cheating but you’re responsible for his mother dying because HE lied?!

Your ex is the King of Doozies, but man, he got really creative with that one. 🤪

Yes. My WH swore on our children's lives that he was telling the truth (never cheated). He swore on his mother's death bed that he had not cheated again. This was after the first affair. He swore on everything that I valued repeatedly. All the while, he was having anonymous sex in parking lots with other men, transvestites and anyone else that would meet him. I so wish this wasn't a constant problem with him, but it was.

Mine swore to God, that she didn't have sex with AP.
Later she told me she was happy I didn't ask her to swear on the Bible.
Anytime she tells anyone she swears to God about something, I cringe inside. Even if I know she's tells the truth.