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I’m not doing good.

Today H told me that a package was coming for my dad’s car, I asked what for he said it needed something because he suspected it’s burning oil. The part came and it’s a turbo, I phoned him and said who is this turbo for?, he said your dad. I said why did you lie to me?, he said I didn’t I told you I ordered it. I said listen, had you told me that it needed a turbo you know I’d have said no, I’m not putting it on until it fails.
H apologised and said he should have told me, that is his mistake and he will send it back, but i didn’t lie to you. I told him I don’t give a shit what he does anymore and put the phone down.

I don’t know what to do, I’m fucking tired. I’m just tired.

I don't remember your situation fully. Are you still living together and trying recon? It sounds like your last nerve is gone after all this and if possible, I'd recommend at least a physical separation. It might do you - and maybe him - a lot of good not to have to deal constantly with each other right now. Sometimes people just wear on each other and being apart for a while is often an answer. It sounds like one of those situations where nothing is going to go right, right now. Sorry if I'm misunderstanding your situation, but I did want to suggest that as I think it might help.

My situation is my H confessed to historical cheating, inc an A on and off that included a few kissing and fondling moments. Took and passed a polygraph to confirm and we’re trying to reconcile, yes we live together along with our children who do not know about this.
DD was NYE 2024, we attend couples therapy that is going really well, we used to attend weekly but now she sees us 3 weekly.
We were actually doing really well aside from me having massive waves of insecurity every now and then and also poking at things when I feel complacent.
I know that I have to voice my needs, I know I have to tell him what I will not accept anymore and I know that he will do whatever I ask but I’m tired, I’m sick of it, why can’t he just not be a fucking idiot and grow up and be a man.

Thank you for replying to me Bondjanebond, I remember you replying to me before and saying we were good candidates for R. R is hard.