PearlyBaker (original poster member #69981) posted at 6:24 PM on Monday, March 9th, 2026
I am almost certain my husband is having another affair. I think if I don't file now then I will become complacent again and comfortable in not feeling uncomfortable, and then cycle will keep continuing. I am a SAHM with a side hustle, but can't support myself. I will go back to work, but have been out of the workforce for awhile, so I honestly, don't know how easy getting a job will be. He definitely can't afford two rents on his own.
Do I file for divorce, while I try and get my life back together? Or is that a terrible idea? We don't have assets to really split, just the custody of the kids and child support, which might be difficult.
I don't want to be erratic here. But this is negatively affecting my mental health and now affecting my kids too.
Any advice is welcome!!
hikingout ( member #59504) posted at 6:59 PM on Monday, March 9th, 2026
Sometimes the best way to make something happen is just to to start. There is not going to be a better place in time until you take the leap. You will be surprised the way our path can be blessed as we start to take the steps. Not stupid at all, it’s momentum versus being stuck. Don’t have family you could stay with for a little while at all?
9 years of hard work - WS and BS - Reconciled
chica1 ( member #52126) posted at 8:49 PM on Monday, March 9th, 2026
I’m a SAHM and have spoken to a couple lawyers, this was one of my questions, who pays for divorce? Both parties do. Yes, you can go ahead and file, put it on a credit card as one lawyer advised. All debt will be divided in divorce and all money will be divided as well. If you’re ready to file, get your free attorney consultations and go from there.
SAHM
Married 15 years
2 kids under 13 years old
DDay #1 2016 one night stand w/coworker
DDay #2 01/2026 EA "4 months" w/coworker