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External Validation and Coming on forums

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 BoiledEggs (original poster new member #87505) posted at 9:37 AM on Friday, June 26th, 2026

We understandably hear a lot about our addiction to External Validation

It struck me this morning that coming on here to post as a Wayward is maybe feeding the Beast?

Instead of feeding the Attention Beast we could be helping clean up our elderly neighbour's front garden for them.

At the same time self judgment on how we choose to spend our time seems to keep us trapped as well.

What are your thoughts on this?

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foreverlabeled ( member #52070) posted at 11:00 AM on Friday, June 26th, 2026

What's the poster’s intention? What is their outcome?

Posting here when you’re doing the work is about exposing your patterns, getting reality checks, learning accountability, and building the internal skills you didn’t have before. That’s not feeding the Beast. That’s starving it.

I see this is your first post and you just signed up, so I’m curious what’s underneath the question for you. Are you worried that if you start posting here, it might pull you into the same patterns you’re trying to break the highs, the attention loops, the external validation stuff?

If that’s the concern, name it plainly. Because the only way to break a pattern is to look at it directly, not dance around it. Posting here isn’t the issue. How you use the space is what matters.

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