EndingsLTA (original poster new member #87614) posted at 1:47 AM on Wednesday, July 22nd, 2026
LD-LTA is over, did the yes/no maybe so for a couple of years, I finally said no and i mean it. I know this will stick - I am one that once a relationship ends, nothing and I do mean nothing will get me to change my mind.
I am sad but relieved, confused one minute and clear headed the next.
I struggle with how deeply I compartmentalized the A. There are years of pushing stuff in a box.
The why’s need for attention, need for affection, escape, validation. Sounds simple… it’s anything but.
So for now, i think i will just hang around here a bit, and learn.
LD-LTA far too long WS/OW same xAPDivorced/single - D not related to A. Compartmentalization is a bear.
GotTheMorbs ( member #86894) posted at 1:51 AM on Wednesday, July 22nd, 2026
Welcome. We are happy to have you here.
Have you disclosed to your Betrayed ex Spouse (BXS) yet?
[This message edited by GotTheMorbs at 2:01 AM, Wednesday, July 22nd]
I'm not arguing... I'm calibrating
EndingsLTA (original poster new member #87614) posted at 2:08 AM on Wednesday, July 22nd, 2026
I asked xH for a divorce long ago. He got remarried, I didn’t. I built a good single life for myself, but hung onto xAP. LD-LTA ended last week. I am almost 60, I have known xAP since I was 2. Lived in different cities after HS. Lots of history - I grapple because unlike other WS/OW situations I read here, I knew him very well before the A and there had never been a need for putting on a mask.
And I am terrified of looking in the compartmentalized box.
[This message edited by EndingsLTA at 5:15 AM, Wednesday, July 22nd]
LD-LTA far too long WS/OW same xAPDivorced/single - D not related to A. Compartmentalization is a bear.
