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So, I was able to turn on the phone and had determined I would look at it when I was by myself to process my feelings. There are no calls from my partner to her and many many many times she tried to call him. Ok.

Then I started to read her text messages to him and it put me into a panic. Professing her love and how she knows he loves her too, yadda yadda.

Part of me thinks, do not read anymore of them, it creates so many emotions, anger, sadness... oh my word so much.

Please tell me your opinions... do I read them or just be glad the phone is out of commission and try to move forward.

One of her comments said she was going to come visit for his birthday (in two weeks). She lives in Canada and I was led to believe she couldn't come to the states because she had been deported many years ago. Again, he hasn't read any of them and did not respond.

I don't know if it is more beneficial for my healing to read them or not. Is it better for me to just throw the phone away and never look at it again.

It's amazing that something like this can have such a strangle hold on life.

Please give me your thoughts because, while curious, I just think it might hurt me more to read the texts.

Hello ! I’ve been following your other post. It’s entirely up to you how much you want to know. For me- finding the details helped me to stop wondering . It also helped me eventually see the reality of the situation, I could no longer bury the feeling and pretend like nothing ever happened. I would probably look through the phone. You might never know what’s really going on if you don’t. You re strong enough to get through it . But it’s up to you.

Do you have a close friend that can sit with you and go through it with you ? That might help!