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Wool94 posted 5/10/2017 02:22 AM

Holy cow. This is epic!

[This message edited by Wool94 at 2:22 AM, May 10th (Wednesday)]

midnightschild99 posted 5/10/2017 16:11 PM

Waiting for an update

Ilovejoe posted 5/11/2017 11:03 AM

Today is the day, right? Let us know how everything went.

twisted posted 5/11/2017 11:11 AM

I must hear the end of this deal! Yes, anxiously and selfishly waiting for an update.

Drumstick posted 5/11/2017 21:35 PM

I hope everything went as planned today!

YHGTBKM posted 5/11/2017 23:37 PM

I held my resolve during a difficult week. I almost got caught as I was on my phone texting my lawyer. She actually accused me of having an affair! She listed my reduced desire, more texting etc on fooling around! Laughable. The crux is, everything I needed to have aligned has been.

The whole week was tough hearing her lies and knowing that she was deceiving me.

She left this morning, so wrapped up in her other life that her family went unnoticed. I asked her to send me a selfie with "the girls" during her stop over and got a single picture. I asked that she tell me when she was boarded so that our daughter could say goodbye because of how sad she was.

When I got the all clear, I instead asked for another selfie with the girls. I again got a single shot. I then asked for a shot with her a AP.

I got a WTF are you talking about?

I said, you know, Carlos (fake name) who lives at Apt 102, 1234 Anywhere street. No need to deny it. My parting gift to you is too fuck you over the same way you've fucked me over. When you land, you will have no credit cards (I've removed you from the accounts so you won't be able to get replacements), I've reported your own card lost, so it will take you 24-48 hours to get a replacement and I revoked my cosigner so I doubt you will even get a replacement, I've closed the bank account you've had access too and I cancelled the hotel you planned staying at. Oh and the rental car. You literally only have the cash you have on you, spend it wisely!

I've also retained a lawyer and started divorce proceedings. If I could serve you upon arrival in Barcelona, I would have.

The locks and security at my house have been changed and your personal items have been boxed and taken to "motel 6" which I have paid for 30 days in advance. I can have them taken to Carlos' house if you would prefer.

I have enough evidence to enact the fidelity clause, including audio and a sworn affidavit from a friend if yours who has full knowledge of your affair.

I got a few calls that ignored and then silence. She lands in a few hours so I imagine there will more of the same.

I spoke to her friends, some of whom were culpable in helping her cover up this affair that I knew what they have done. I informed their husbands what has been happening and the degree in they have been assisting my STBEXW. They were disgusted that their wives were facilitating the affair and some even wondered if "if it can happen to you", why not me?

I am hoping that this will eliminate my STBEXW from trying to borrow money to get home earlier.

She lands in 3 hours so I can't imagine what I will get then. My lawyer suggests that I block her on every platform of communication but I kind of want to see what she will say.

I've had my head and thoughts about me so well that I even went to all the locksmiths in my area and informed them what was happening that if she shows up asking to be let into my house that I will prosecute for unlawful entry.

More to come, I guess. I have to break the news to my girl which won't be easy.

Sanibelredfish posted 5/11/2017 23:49 PM

Touché, YHGTBKM. Well done! I can't imagine she's feeling particularly amorous while shitting her pants over what you told her via text. That measure of revenge has to feel pretty good.

Also, I hope the talk with your DD goes as well as can be expected.

WhatElseToDo posted 5/12/2017 00:23 AM

WOW! You are amazing.

Drumstick posted 5/12/2017 00:40 AM

Drumstick posted 5/12/2017 00:43 AM

Damn, I couldn't get my Hans Solo thumbs up gif to post.

Nevertheless, 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

YHGTBKM posted 5/12/2017 00:56 AM

The hardest thing about this entire episode, has been seeing how giddy and happy she was about this trip all while lying to me.

I found that I had to catch myself from being happy that she was so happy in her planning and then suddenly remembering that it wasn't true, none of it.

GoldenR posted 5/12/2017 00:58 AM

I know this is hard. Stay strong, brother.

william posted 5/12/2017 01:11 AM

Are you 100% decided to get a d? Or are you leaving open a tiny crack of a chance?

Drumstick posted 5/12/2017 01:33 AM

YHGK...

I hear you, it is extremely tough to see your WS act giddy in front of you when planning to cheat. Although I suspect more beforehand, I only know of my exWW's affair in Key West because of her girlfriend who told me. My exWW was too happy to have her girl's weekend, and in some sense I knew something was going to happen.

In any event, I'm glad that you stayed strong throughout. She may come crawling back, and you will need to determine whether it is for money or a relationship. By the way, I suspect you already know!

breadfruit1 posted 5/12/2017 01:56 AM

YHGTBKM You are a very smart man, poised well controlled, focused and decisive considering what has happened to you /happening to you , your mariage and your family. To say your approach is classic is really an understatement. I can just imagine how shocked, angry, speechless, nervous and miserable she is now when this trip should be completely with opposite emotions. I am also glad you spoke with her enabling female friends and their respective spouses. Now they will be under suspicion and surveillance and should be.
I wish you and your daughter the very best and especially hope the conversation with her will go over well. I have no doubt it will based on what and how you have executed such exceptionally outstanding resolve so far.

breadfruit1 posted 5/12/2017 01:57 AM

YHGTBKM You are a very smart man, poised well controlled, focused and decisive considering what has happened to you /happening to you , your mariage and your family. To say your approach is classic is really an understatement. I can just imagine how shocked, angry, speechless, nervous and miserable she is now when this trip should be completely with opposite emotions. I am also glad you spoke with her enabling female friends and their respective spouses. Now they will be under suspicion and surveillance and should be.
I wish you and your daughter the very best and especially hope the conversation with her will go over well. I have no doubt it will based on what and how you have executed such exceptionally outstanding resolve so far.

ramius posted 5/12/2017 02:32 AM

Well played sir.

Meticulous planning, saint like patience, solid determination, and flawless execution.

Very sorry you have to break this news to your daughter. If only her mother had kept her knees together.

Ilovejoe posted 5/12/2017 02:35 AM

Wow! You thought of all contingencies.

So sorry for you and especially DD.

william posted 5/12/2017 04:17 AM

This thread should be required reading on this site.

WhoTheBleep posted 5/12/2017 04:45 AM

Oh what I wouldn't give to turn back time and confront in such a spectacular way...sigh. I simply took the kids to my parents' house, met WH on the porch as he arrived home from work, and told him I knew everything and we were divorcing.

Bravo, good man.

And continued strength to you. You've made all BS's stand a little bit taller, today.

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