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numb2018 posted 4/29/2018 20:06 PM

Thank you, everyone. Seeing the lawyer tomorrow. Have no idea what this will entail. No idea where he's gone, but the OBS informs me that she is with him. Daughter is pissed, and our youngest has autism and keeps asking about his dad. I'm just in a state of shock.

Cooley2here posted 4/29/2018 20:14 PM

Numb, if he is not letting his children know where he is then he is a pos who needs a kick in the a**. People who desert their children are scum!

fareast posted 4/29/2018 20:29 PM

Strength to you and your children as you move forward. So sorry you are here and especially for your children. You have given him every opportunity and he has shown you who he is. Despicable to desert a family with children at home. Please take care of yourself and make sure your children get counseling and that school officials are notified. Detach. No contact means no new hurts. Have him served as soon as feasible. You are strong and you deserve so much better. You will get through this with your children.

PricklePatch posted 4/29/2018 22:37 PM

Strength to you numb. Video everything so you know if he takes assets. Also pull finials out and put them somewhere safe.

Hugs and prayers.

hopeandhealing posted 4/29/2018 22:42 PM

Numb,

Good for you to say no more to his crap! You gave him the gift of reconciliation and he showed you that his perceived needs continue to be more important than yours. Wow. I am sorry you are going through this and sorry your kids are as well. You will get through this with them and model for your kids how to be treated.

I wish you strength.

tushnurse posted 4/30/2018 06:58 AM

Make sure you document that he as abandoned you. This will not fair well for him, esp w/ a special needs child.
Stay strong. Focus on you and your kids.

((((And Healing))))

SilverStar posted 4/30/2018 09:38 AM

I hope by now you have Hefty-bagged all his crap and tossed it into the garage. Let him know Am-Vets is coming in 5 days to pick it all up. File and serve him, NC except finances and kids.

The love triangle only works with you in it. I see it this way: pre-A, Wh is 80% happy with the marriage. OW comes along and now he's 100% happy. He thinks OW is making him 100% happy. Hahahahaha! He's about to enjoy 20% happiness, the loss of his children's and community's respect, the division of marital assets and the death of his soul. And he'll be sharing all that with a lying, sneaking skank who has done the same. Sounds like a nice life (heavy sarcasm).

Let him go. Your heart is going to feel like it is exploding and you will even think you are in so much pain that you will die. You will not. You must do these things anyway. Know the SI army is before you, beside you and behind you.