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hikingout posted 2/11/2019 13:00 PM

Well, I hesitated to post this, because in some ways it's so sacred that posting it here almost seemed to...I don't know how to explain it. Tell the secret? Pop the bubble? Cheapen it?

But, I decided a long time ago that you have to post the positive things when they happen. It gives others hope, and it gives folks insight to your story if they are at all following it. I don't know why I find it much easier to post the struggles or things about the work than some of the other stuff. Maybe because there is always so much pain on here, but I think mostly it makes me feel more vulnerable to share the happy. Like I would be jinxing myself, or that I don't always feel like I deserve it.

I received a new wedding ring. I can't stop crying about it. I am beside myself still, and it was almost two weeks ago that it happened. I have had mixed emotions from wow I don't deserve it yet to being in awe about my husbands love. He is the strong quiet type (which you can tell by my posts I am his opposite - chatty and verbose), so when he does something it's never on a whim, it's usually not with some grandiose words or anything fussy. But it holds more meaning than anything that can be expressed. We were on a trip together and one morning we were laying in bed just happy not to have anywhere to rush off to. Kind of thinking about breakfast and just warm and sleepy. He just slipped it on my hand. We looked at each other, I succumbed ugly crying, he got a little teary eyed, and there wasn't much more to the exchange. It's a simple thin gold band, and it's perfect. It will never leave my finger, and it will not only be the traditional symbol but I will always look at it as something I almost lost once.

wildbananas posted 2/11/2019 13:03 PM

This is beautiful and made me a bit teary... I'm happy for you both!

pinkpggy posted 2/11/2019 13:06 PM

So sweet! What a great story, thanks for sharing.

ChangeMe1 posted 2/11/2019 13:06 PM

You should not feel ashamed to celebrate the good things. You have worked hard, turned inward and worked while also being there for your BH.

You're so clearly so thankful, and you should be. But you did the work you needed to do, and no together you are both doing the work of being together in a new and healthy way.

Don't feel you need to hide the progress and results of true honest work.

numb&dumb posted 2/11/2019 13:09 PM

Pdxguy posted 2/11/2019 13:14 PM

This is beautiful.

stubbornft posted 2/11/2019 13:14 PM

Wow. Your husband is an amazing person, that is a really beautiful gesture.

STLLOST posted 2/11/2019 13:18 PM

I'm really happy for you. I know that meant a lot to both of you. Glad you could work together to make a better union.

Butforthegrace posted 2/11/2019 13:40 PM

That's so heart warming. I'm happy for you.

Sayuwontletgo posted 2/11/2019 13:43 PM

I am so happy for you!! What a great new story to have together. It made me little teary eyed too reading it! Wear that baby with pride

thatwilldo posted 2/11/2019 13:52 PM

You're such an inspiration to all of us. Thanks for sharing this wonderful and hopeful event with us.

Want2BHappyAgain posted 2/11/2019 14:32 PM

AWESOME!!! Thanks so much for sharing !!!

destroyedwayward posted 2/11/2019 15:33 PM

@hikingout - this is so, so lovely. From all your posts, since I've joined and started reading, you have torn yourself apart, almost painfully so. Through the miles of the sh*t we all cause as waywards, you and your BH found a way to treat it as fertilizer. Best wishes for continued recovery/reconciliation!

ElZorro posted 2/11/2019 17:52 PM

So freaking happy for you!!!

BraveSirRobin posted 2/11/2019 18:02 PM

I seriously cannot think of any wayward on SI who is more deserving of this second chance, who has done more to become a safe partner to their BS and to help other people. I'm so happy for you, truly. For both of you.

fareast posted 2/11/2019 18:48 PM

😁💍👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Barregirl posted 2/11/2019 21:11 PM

Hikingout, such amazing news! Thank you for sharing it with us. I know how hard it is to have some happy and want to shout it from the rooftops, yet feel like you shouldn't. Your journey is inspiring to follow, and it is great to hear this from you.

gtflng posted 2/11/2019 21:17 PM

Admittedly I still struggle to cheer for WWs. BUT! When I think of you posting when he was wanting divorcing, saying you just wanted to do whatever he needed... to now this? My heart can’t help but to love a good comeback story.

Drumstick posted 2/12/2019 01:33 AM

👍👍👍👍

Congrats!

tiredofcrying59 posted 2/12/2019 01:36 AM

Wow. So sweet!