I am hoping by writing this, I can purge it out, and let it go. (and sleep)
I am not even looking for any responses. I just want to write.
Two years ago, my adult DD had surgery. It was a very major surgery. She now has metal bars in her body. (long story about why, where they are, etc)
Most people who have this surgery do well afterwards. She has not been one of those people.
She has struggled greatly...all while trying to stay away from the narcotic pain meds.
She has not been able to maintain a job. There are days she struggles to get out of bed.
I have been very concerned about her mental health.
She has had some mental health issues, even before this.
I have been supporting her financially...which has been hard.
Last week, her father finally agreed to help her out. Saying he would give her X amount of money the first of every month. And, I would match the amount for her, as the month went on.
That was last week.....today, he verbally attacked her. Saying he never agreed to that(I was there, yes you did) He accused her of being able to work, just choosing not to. That the doctor's told her she should be working(again, I was there, no, they did not)
And, of course, now, he is not going to help her.
She is so hurt (again). And, I am so angry!!
She has 13 more months of this....then the metal bars will be removed.
I told her, look we have made it two years, we will make it another year.
His behavior comes as no surprise to me. I actually was expecting him to back out, saying he did not remember agreeing.
But, stop doing this shit to your child!! Adult or not, she is in need of our help. Asshole!!
Who does this kind of stuff to their own kids??
I don't need an answer to that...I know.
And, this from a man, who, because of his health and disability status, was just given a new garage door, a new furnace, a new central air conditioner unit, a new roof, and an entire landscaping makeover of his yard. Retaining walls and everything.
I am not joking...he got all of that free.
But, he has no charity when it comes to his own child!!!
Unbelievable......
Okay, I am letting it go. I know I have to...