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and she is a bitch . . .

I'm guessing this is not too surprising Bleu.

Sucky.

(Was it an "official" introduction or a random meeting?)

Ugh. Worst nightmare. They deserve each other. Do something nice for yourself. ((()))

and she belongs 100% to your xwh. He earned and deserves a bitch...

Chili,

It's not surprising. It was an official meeting. And now, she can be around the kids. Yay.

BearlyBreathing,

Yep. She does deserve a serial cheater.

Tallgirl,

That is definitely my consolation.

They sure know how to pick em, don't they?

The woman my X left me for was a complete nut job, as well as a bitch from hell.

It did not last very long. And, it ended in spectacular fashion.

I am sorry your kids have to have her in their lives.

[This message edited by betsy62 at 10:49 PM, November 21st (Thursday)]

Ugh for your kids.

Very telling that she couldn't even fake it in your presence. I guess at least you know what time of day it is.

Sending good things your way today.

They know how to find them huh? Geeze

I hope she is nice to your kids and I hope your STBX has the b*lls to put this bitch in her place if she isn't. Otherwise bitch would get an earful from me.

[This message edited by crazyblindsided at 11:57 AM, November 22nd (Friday)]

So is Karma. They'll get along perfectly

Were you expecting to like your ex's new partner? I think that would be weird.

betsy62,

I am sorry your kids have to have her in their lives.

Me, too. I felt sick about it today. Absolutely sick.

They definitely have a nasty disposition in common. It may bond them for life.

I guess if she were pleasant, I would feel badly that he was manipulating her. Since she's an ass, no f*cks to give.

Chili,

Very telling. Put on a fake smile to show me you can be decent to my kids. Since she is a mother, she should have a clue.

Like you said, I know what I'm dealing with...

I felt truly anxious today which isn't the norm for me. Deflated, really. Even now, I shiver as I think about sharing the kids with them.

crazyblindsided,

Agreed. If there are any issues, both of them will have to answer.

He doesn't have the courage. I have already heard her influence coming out of his mouth. It's maddening since she and I have different values. Well, maybe he can blame me if he wants to take a stand.

Chaos,

Man, once I am no longer the clear enemy, they will turn on each other.

Tigersrule77,

Love your username. Tigers are my spirit animal.

I wasn't expecting her to be so rude and hateful. I did not expect to like her but I thought she would be pleasant. Your POV is right though. . . it was weird for me to expect decency.

When I met STBXWH's oldest daughter's mother, I was pleasant. I was always respectful of her. So I thought it was possible.

The kids met her last Saturday.

The agreement says they are to be home at 8.

I texted at 8:20 asking for an ETA. He called back telling me that the ETA depended on whether I had dinner for them or not.

I told him it was unacceptable and the tit for tat began.

They lost track of time. Instead of bringing the kids home, he went to her house and changed for work. Let them sit hungry.

And since I routinely bring them home after 9, I suppose there was no reason to notify me.

Of course, I don't routinely get my kids home after 9.

Let's not allow facts to get in the way of his narrative.

Looks like we are headed for a hearing. Unbelievable.

So, here’s what happened in my situation....

I stood my ground on important stuff— like bringing them home on time, but I didn’t argue. I simply stated it over and over. Then one time they said no, and I brought the police with me. That, sadly is the only language they understood.

I stayed out of their line of sight and they began to fight each other! - remember they are 2 very sick people.

Sad thing is, the OW was so manipulative, she got him to stop going to our kids events. It was so horrible for my kids...

I would have gladly taken the pain of seeing them with my kids, rather than the kids being so heartbroken.

It turned out -about 2 yrs out- the kids stopped going over bc the OW and XH fought so much!

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 11:30 PM, December 9th (Monday)]

Thanks, homewrecked2011!

Honestly, I would not have thought to remind him of this simple thing that he knows. I continue to be astounded.

I like your approach though.

I told him 15 minute grace and if there was no contact, I would call the authorities.

The childish attitude when I spoke with him was the icing.

Bleu,

Perhaps your exWH prayed for a hot woman.....and as Oscar Wilde said "God punishes us by answering our prayers", just wait until one or both of them cheats. Make some popcorn and watch the show!

survus,