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HellFire posted 12/6/2019 21:08 PM

How accurate is it?

ibonnie posted 12/6/2019 21:51 PM

In my experience, pretty accurate, although you might see someone checked into a location nearby? For example, once the timeline showed WH in an optometrist, but he was actually at the coffee shop next door.

HellFire posted 12/6/2019 22:24 PM

I checked his Google timeline, for the first time. We are several years out. I rarely check his phone anymore.

It showed he had visited a house, in a subdivision, a few miles from where he works. One time, a month ago

He claims he has never been there.

He's reminding me that, about 5 years ago, his work phone pinged him on the interstate, at 4 am, when he was in bed with me.

That was according to the tracker his job had placed in the phone, not Google timeline.

Of course, the timeline shows the usual info,places I know he has been. Those are all accurate. But he swears he has never been to this house, or anywhere near this house.

I know if I were reading this, posted by someone else, I would think he was lying.

He's lying.

[This message edited by HellFire at 10:25 PM, December 6th (Friday)]

Carissima posted 12/6/2019 22:50 PM

Actually it appears to be a common problem and Google have even posted an explanation why this can happen. Previously it had me listed at a location 30mins away when I was at home. I'm a BS btw and was just checking my own as a test!

Not to say he's telling the truth, something told you to check his phone after all.

Buster123 posted 12/6/2019 22:55 PM

Keep your eyes open, you know the usual red flags, I'm not sure if it warrants putting a VAR in his car yet but it would certainly not hurt, especially if your gut starts talking to you again.

landclark posted 12/6/2019 23:08 PM

I am not sure about now, but at one point it would regularly show my husband was in the next neighborhood over. However the times it showed were definitely times when he was at home. It wasn’t just one time either. It was days and days of showing the wrong location. So I question how accurate it is in general, but if everything else looks good and it was only one off listing, I would be suspicious as well.

nekonamida posted 12/7/2019 06:02 AM

How long does it show him being there for? Can you see how he could have traveled there with the rest of the timeline? Glitches are possible. Maybe it's time to do some more digging just to be safe.

HellFire posted 12/7/2019 07:04 AM

I don't know how long he was there. I've never checked the timeline before. He was in the shower,as I was checking his phone. I took a picture of the info that said he was there,one time,a month ago. I haven't looked again. But I will, and see if I can get any more info.

I did all of the wrong things. I confronted later that day. I had investigated enough to find out who lives there,and from her Facebook, I THINK she is recently separated,or divorced. Not that that matters,obviously. I had planned on investigating more, but just blurted it out. I'm having some very stressful health issues, and I just wanted to confront,and have him tell me it was a coworkers house, and he had given him a ride home from work. Or he had picked up some straw,for the animals,there. I needed a plausible explanation. Instead, I got, "I have no idea. I wasn't there." And, a bit of an attitude tbat felt like, "how dare you not believe me." You all can imagine how well that went over.

Duh. I didn't think about digging out my var. I tell new BS on here, every day, to use a var.

I'm going to stop asking. It seems it could be inaccurate, and maybe he is being honest. And, I'm going to put the var in his truck,to reassure myself that he's being honest.

Thanks everyone! I'm still apprehensive,but not panicking, like I was.

12 years out. Infidelity. The gift that keeps giving.

cocoplus5nuts posted 12/7/2019 07:14 AM

That's quite common with any tracking app. My fch got suspicious of me once when I was in Arizona because our tracker showed me at a random house. I was on the other side of town in a restaurant eating dinner.

ETA: Do either of you have any connection to the woman who lives at the house?

[This message edited by cocoplus5nuts at 7:17 AM, December 7th (Saturday)]

HellFire posted 12/7/2019 07:31 AM

As far as I know,he doesn't know her. She's about my age. Her info is private,so I don't know where she works,or where she is from.

He has lived in this town for most of his life. For all I know, she could be an ex girlfriend, or a coworker.

Honestly, we are together most of the time. Unless he is hunting, or fishing. I assume he is doing those things. I haven't checked in years.

He leaves his phone out, and I have the password.

I've caught him in some lies over the last year. All centered around porn. Years ago, he and his AP watched porn during sex, so naturally porn is a trigger for me. When we were going through the reconciliation process, HE decided no more porn, for a variety of reasons,and promised me no more porn. But he didn't keep that promise. And, honestly, it's the lying, and the broken promises that upset me more than the porn. But, other than this issue , he's been a decently remorseful husband, for many years.

I'd say maybe I overreacted. But, no. I saw what I saw, and I reacted because of his past actions.

The var will be in the truck Monday.

Rideitout posted 12/7/2019 07:44 AM

It's very accurate (trust me, I know from professional experience). But, false locations do pop up there from time to time. The way to tell if it's a erroneous, is there a "line" leading to that location that follows roads. If so, it's almost 100% he/she was at that location. The ones that are errors, you'll see a straight line going from where ever the person was (home, for example) to the other location. It's because there's no interim pings (driving/walking there, etc) so the timeline just fills in the gaps with a straight line. Look at it on Google Maps and you'll be able to see the "track" that the person took to get there. That'll tell you, without much/any doubt (at least in my mind), if they actually went there or if the GPS signal just bounced strangely one time and wound up somewhere else.

Marie2792 posted 12/7/2019 07:44 AM

I find the google timeline more accurate than the phone locator. It hasn’t been incorrect but the phone app has so I assume it’s possible. It will also show you however that a person is near their work or home locations of you save those and points on the map. So let’s say the person is actually having lunch two doors down from the office with an AP, it may show they’re at work.

Notmine posted 12/7/2019 07:49 AM

I've caught him in some lies over the last year. All centered around porn

Lies + Porn = Red Flag

Porn is NOT an innocent pursuit. I am hearing that it is a trigger and part of your agreement that he abstain. Nonetheless, he knows it hurts you and he is hiding it and lying about it. Porn was a catalyst for my husband that progressed into an affair. I know that Google is not infallible, but trust your gut. The house in question belongs to a single woman about your age? This is quite a coincidence. If he knows you are tracking him, he would know not to meet there because you might check on him. I wouldn't panic, but I would definitely investigate.

cocoplus5nuts posted 12/7/2019 17:44 PM

I'd say maybe I overreacted. But, no. I saw what I saw, and I reacted because of his past actions.

Exactly! There is no overreacting after this shit.

cptprkchp posted 12/7/2019 18:27 PM

Hello Hellfire!!

I live in NYC right on the Hudson - one time I was at a doctors appointment a few blocks from my apartment but Google showed me in New Jersey - which is right across the river. Being a WS, naturally, I panicked!! Fortunately, I paid the office with a credit card and was able to prove exactly where I was. I’m not saying he’s being truthful especially in light of his recent lying but I can say I have never stepped foot in Jersey in my life but Google timeline had me there.

I really hope it’s just a glitch!!

cptprkchp posted 12/7/2019 18:32 PM

I just thought about this - maybe check your credit/debit statements and see if there are any charges in that particular area? If he was going to visit a woman how likely do you think it would be that he may stop somewhere and bring her something? I never carry cash and use my cards for everything - even if it’s a dollar.

Again - I hope it’s just a glitch.

HellFire posted 12/9/2019 10:12 AM

RIO, thank you for that info. It's not a straight line. It follows the roads.

He insists he is telling the truth,and is waiting for an apology.

It shows he was there for 4 minutes, one night, after work. He works second shift and gets off at 11:30. It shows him there from 11:40 to 11:44. I am asleep,most nights before he gets home. And, even if I wasn't, it's only 5 minutes, so I wouldn't have noticed anyway.

He claims he is NEVER home any later than 11:45. This is not true. He has been later, telling me he drove past his woods,to look for trespassers(has been a issue), and got home a bit later. The woods is less than 5 minutes away.

As I read what RIO wrote, about the line following the roads, he got very defensive, and grabbed his phone,preventing me from looking further.

He is now ignoring me.

It's 4 minutes. I doubt sex was had in 4 minutes. It's the denial. The lies. The gaslighting. The anger. Him acting as if I have no reason to doubt him. The turning it around on me. It's the catching him in lies, about his phone activity. It's lack of compassion and remorse, because I am doubting him.

Clearly something is going on. Cheating? I don't know. But he was at this woman's house for 4 minutes, one night after work. And he is lying about it.

4 minutes. What.the.fuck.

And, yes, Var will be going in the truck.

God dammit.

hikingout posted 12/9/2019 11:12 AM

Clearly something is going on. Cheating? I don't know. But he was at this woman's house for 4 minutes, one night after work. And he is lying about it.
4 minutes. What.the.fuck.

Eek, I hate to add to this in case it's nothing, but that could be enough time to drop off someone. Does it show where he was prior? In normal circumstances, I could think "well he dropped a coworker off there who is dating her", but the denial makes that not plausible because I think he would state that. Could she actually be a co-worker currently who he gave a ride home and he knows that you wouldn't like it because she is female? (not that it makes it any better, I am really just offering what would make it a 4 minute visit)

I hope it turns out to be nothing, Hellfire. Take care.

[This message edited by hikingout at 11:13 AM, December 9th (Monday)]

HellFire posted 12/9/2019 11:36 AM

Other than a few pics,her Facebook info is locked down. She could be a coworker. And, no, I wouldn't be ok with it,if he have her a ride home. His ONS was with a co-worker. I have strict boundaries about that.

The thing is,he could have just said, " I gave Brian a ride home one night,after work, his car was in the shop."
Easy,peasy.

But he is saying he was NEVER there. Add in that he is telling me he has NEVER been home later than 11:45, when I know he has,albeit very occasionally, and it's obvious he is lying.

After I confronted, and he yelled, he went to the bathroom. With his phone. For 30 minutes. When he came out, I asked if he wiped everything clean. He didn't answer. The phone hasn't left him since.

I really was expecting him to have a plausible explaination,when I first said something. His entire response screams "LIAR."

[This message edited by HellFire at 11:37 AM, December 9th (Monday)]

hikingout posted 12/9/2019 11:39 AM

I agree. That's what I was saying, if it was a male co-worker he would have said that he gave him a ride home. A female one, he would probably know that wasn't okay. All in all, I just was pressing on why someone would go to someone's house after 11 pm at night for only 4 minutes? Dropping something off or picking something up is the only thing that really makes any sense. If he's wiping his phone and now keeping it close, that's not a good sign. I am so sorry Hellfire.