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DevastatedDee posted 12/12/2019 14:17 PM

I get it. I just feel protective over you, like if I lived in your area and some guy ADDED to the pain you've felt, he would need a restraining order against me, lol.

CatsNTats posted 12/12/2019 14:29 PM

I get it. I just feel protective over you, like if I lived in your area and some guy ADDED to the pain you've felt, he would need a restraining order against me, lol.

Is it possible for me to love you even though we've only interacted on here?!?

((Dee))

I hear you all. And I'm not going to fuck up my schooling for anyone. But now I have 5 weeks off to find a job, get my place unpacked and in some kind of decent shape, and time - that has made me feel so disoriented. I don't know what to do with myself at times. I am going to get my place together, but after the past week and 5 exams in 5 days, I just needed a minute to do nothing - and try to enjoy being able to do something other than school/work.

And yeah - I want to feel something other than this loneliness that comes with the grief of WH death. Because - the people in my life that haven't been through this (most of them) - really don't understand. And at some point - they don't want to hear about it anymore. They just want me to be who I was before. But I haven't been that person in a long time because of all the things he did to me.

[This message edited by CatsNTats at 2:33 PM, December 12th (Thursday)]

DevastatedDee posted 12/12/2019 14:36 PM

Is it possible for me to love you even though we've only interacted on here?!?

I love you right on back!

I am happy at the thought of you getting out into the world and rejoining life. I really do think that part is wise. You deserve it.

tushnurse posted 12/12/2019 14:44 PM

The point I was trying to make earlier was this guy may be super nice, but he may also have some sort of KISA syndrome, and wants to save you.

You don't need to be saved. I also disagree with your therapist, but that's not unusual for me, again. Caution Will Rogers.... Caution.


Nice guys with KISA look for women like you who are broken, and will say all the right things, but then aren't happy when you heal, and are independent. Be your own KISA.

CatsNTats posted 12/12/2019 15:06 PM

You don't need to be saved. I also disagree with your therapist, but that's not unusual for me, again. Caution Will Rogers.... Caution.

((Tush)) I would hug you if I could. I know. I'm not trying to be saved by a KISA. I just want to be able to enjoy someone's company and not be alone ALL the time.

Believe me - I feel guarded. Technically, he didn't seek me out. He had a crush on me years ago - and he didn't see me anymore after I left that place of employment because I only saw him when he came in with his friends.

When we first spoke after all these years, he told me he prefers to date independent women. He was amazed at my accomplishments and being in nursing school. He told me to make that my priority. He wasn't pushy. He didn't blow my phone up all the time. He did offer to be an ear after WH death - and I did not respond. I actually didn't reach back out until weeks after the funeral - and it was just to say hello. He more or less waited until I didn't have something to do or something on my plate - every single day. Our original plan was to meet for coffee. Once he found out I did so well this semester he wanted to take me out to celebrate that. But I also told him about the friend that made me feel bad the night before (about not being my old self) and he did not have those expectations of me. He just let me be me. And that's what I need right now - is people to just let me be (me).

[This message edited by CatsNTats at 3:07 PM, December 12th (Thursday)]

Shehawk posted 12/18/2019 18:41 PM

I am a bit of a tell the truth and be open to healthy companionship and even love when you find it person...because life is short.

Of course we all feel protective of eachother. Thus, I might choose a different activity than netflicks and chill tho just to pace the physical aspect of the relationship some so as to not let that blur your judgement.

That said I personally would only date someone who was a fantastic kisser :) also because life is too short lol

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