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woodlandlost (original poster member #70515) posted at 10:45 PM on Saturday, December 21st, 2019
I am so hurting right now. Grieving, whatever you want to call it. My daughter is home and we leave for her piano recital in 15 minutes and tgought I would smash out a post here as I am building with sadness by the second. We dropped WW off at rehab yesterday. I am so sad right now...I am sure a lot of us hurt a little extra at this time of year.
Hallmack ( member #71114) posted at 11:52 PM on Saturday, December 21st, 2019
Very much feeing the pain. Christmas was never really my favorite holiday in to begin with but now it’s so closely tied to affair season for me. I keep thinking about the way my wife was treating me at this time last year and it makes me so sad. She just started her winter break from work and she used her winter break to go on her first trip to go see AP last year. She left the day after Xmas. I keep thinking about how she insisted I not go even though I took time off work. Told me she needed time to think about our marriage problems. Little did I know that all the marriage problems were a manifestation of the affair. This affair broke my heart and it’s the gift that keeps on giving because it keeps breaking my heart every day. It just hurts so much that she thought she deserved to have an affair. That she felt so unhappy with our marriage that she was completely ok with dating another man and having sex with him and blaming me for all of our problems.
EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 11:58 PM on Saturday, December 21st, 2019
Just take care of yourselves and don't feel like you have to be festive or whatever. Christmas is really hard, so just get through it the best you can!!
Sending hugs!
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
woodlandlost (original poster member #70515) posted at 2:31 AM on Sunday, December 22nd, 2019
Hallmack
Damn. Same...to the day. My Daughter's piano recital...she as with that loser OM.
Makes me sick.
Here if you want to vent.
3greatkids ( member #69847) posted at 3:03 AM on Sunday, December 22nd, 2019
Christmas, anniversary, multiple affair seasons. It’s brutal and I hope I don’t wake up Christmas Day when cheating POS has the kids.
I’m so f ing tired of “surviving” infidelity.
You can’t get blood from a turnip...or remorse from a narcissist.
A lifetime of betrayals, not “just” 5.
I know my worth.
3rdstrike ( member #71471) posted at 11:33 AM on Sunday, December 22nd, 2019
Yep! My WW started screwing her affair partner around Thanksgiving and treated me like like I was less than human during the holidays. I used to love Thanksgiving and Christmas. She took a big old sh!t on all of that. I know it's not going to be easy but I'm anticipating the D paperwork with positivity for my future.
Me 49 BH
Her 48 WW Married 26 yrs
2 teen daughters
2 EA's
1 EA turned PA lasted one year.
DDay 18 May 2018, Filed Jan 2020
She thinks time, rug sweeping and being nice will make it go away.
nervousnelly ( member #58359) posted at 5:20 PM on Sunday, December 22nd, 2019
I am so sorry...hugs to you.
This season stinks for many reasons. I began to suspect around this time 3 seasons ago. This season has been hard ever since. He was distant and nasty which sending her thousands of texts all day and night, conversations on the phone when I wasn't around and probably meeting up while I was at work. I have a hard time feeling "jolly". Thank goodness my children are all grown now...don't have to really fake the "spirit".
We are here for you.
1. Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed.
2. Learn to love yourself.
3. Listen to your gut.
cptprkchp ( member #11719) posted at 7:03 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2019
Hello Woodland!!
I decided to stop in to see how you were doing as I remember your wife went to rehab 12/20. I imagine this is a shitty Christmas for you & your daughter but I just want to remind you that all that you are feeling is normal and you are handling it the best way you know how! Just for the next 24 or so hours count your blessings instead of your problems and give your daughter the best Christmas you possibly can - she will remember this.
Best wishes to you!!
PS - I just realized I assumed that you celebrate xmas - if I am wrong I certainly apologize!!
Nolife ( member #72136) posted at 12:28 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2019
40 years of messed up Christmas due to lying while separated then back together to finding out he lied for 38 years. So all Christmas are messed up now.
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 3:12 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2019
My sadness is related to the fact that my dad passed away 2 months ago. Tonight was really hard.
Hang in there, everyone.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
20yrsagoBS ( member #55272) posted at 3:31 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2019
I’m sorry you’re feeling blue this season.
That Karma bus sure takes it sweet time, but it does eventually swing by
(((Hugs)))
BW, 54 WH 53 When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas
woodlandlost (original poster member #70515) posted at 6:41 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2019
Hi All,
Well made it through. Not without a few bumps for me. Took DD to see her mom and the rehab program she is in has an open door policy so WW can come and go from 1pm-10pm. She seems to be doing well, they do alcohol testing everyday. My daughter was happy to be with her mom. We went for a walk, and then swimming and went for some chinese food.
That evening my DD was hit the wall. She cried in my arms, so sad that mama wasn't with us...that she would give away everything just to have mama home. I just held her. There was nothing more I could do. Ugh.
Back at home now and life goes on...but still I am in a blurr. Seeing her really makes it hard for me to do what I need to do. I want to feel good about myself again so that if thungs go sideways I am better able to manage the storm.
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