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Allie84 (original poster member #47202) posted at 6:51 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2019
Serious question. He terrorized for 6 years and clawed his way back in every time. He abused me, broke my chest bone, cheated with women, cheated with men twice his age, teen porn on the computer, Craigslist ads, financial control, academic control (he literally made me fail two semesters), he told me I was stupid, that he was intellectually superior, the list goes on and on.... I have record of it all.
Stuck in the cycle of gaslighting and trickle truth. Drip, drip, drip to insanity... working on exit plan.
Sexual Assault Survivor, still trying to survive.
TheGuy123 ( member #59235) posted at 9:20 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2019
You can pretty much sue anybody for anything these days.
First step is find a hungry lawyer staving enough to figure out and go after your old man.
Have you checked your state for common law spouse...my state is seven years and then one can actually sue in a divorce and go after some cash.
[This message edited by TheGuy123 at 3:26 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)]
Once both spouses just stop caring...anything can happen and usually does.
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 5:39 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2019
Youd be better of for reporting hum to the police for child pornography. If he has child porn on his computer he is one sick MFer. Please report him.
Seeking professional help for why you stayed with him is vital too. Please reach out and get the help you need and deserve.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 9:07 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2019
If you want to be rid of him then then the child pornography is the thing to report. However if you have access to that computer YOU could be implicated.
If he has it in his phone that may be better for you. You may not be facing any charges against you if that is so OBS dies t allow you to use.
I’m sorry for you. You have been living a nightmare. Get away from this guy - as far and as fast as you can.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Allie84 (original poster member #47202) posted at 11:40 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2019
I did report the child porn, he destroyed his computer- but he did admit to the child porn via text.
Stuck in the cycle of gaslighting and trickle truth. Drip, drip, drip to insanity... working on exit plan.
Sexual Assault Survivor, still trying to survive.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 1:56 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2019
What else can you use to get this guy out of your life?
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Allie84 (original poster member #47202) posted at 3:32 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2019
Well he’s out of the house and his stuff is still here. Other than that, it’s the acute stress of everything and really worrying about my kids and everything. My mind is a huge ball of trauma and it’s all over the place. Most importantly, he is out of the house, the police told him not to come back unless he has a police escort to get his things.
Stuck in the cycle of gaslighting and trickle truth. Drip, drip, drip to insanity... working on exit plan.
Sexual Assault Survivor, still trying to survive.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 9:11 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2019
Well that’s a positive step right now.
Enjoy the peace if you can.
I suggest calling a mutual friend to deliver his remaining belongings to him.
Then put the rest in storage for 30 days that you pay for and tell him he has 30 days to get his stuff or start paying for it at the storage unit - if he has that much crap that you cannot get to him.
Then he has no reason to physically see you.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
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