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Wife of 2 Years and Emotional Affair

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Newlifeisgreat posted 3/21/2020 12:32 PM

Have you contacted any lawyers to set up an initial appointment yet?

Anotheron3 posted 3/21/2020 12:41 PM

That I have. Luckily it's pretty easy and cut and dry where I live.

Newlifeisgreat posted 3/21/2020 12:48 PM

Good for you!

Continue moving forward!
I promise that things are much, much better once the process starts moving forward.

Where are you that things are like that? Iím jealous. Lol

Marz posted 3/21/2020 12:49 PM

The problem you have is if they work together itís easy to have contact and keep it hidden.

R would require specific actions on her part which you donít have.

The capability is there for her to repeat her behavior if itís even stopped. She does nothing to fix herself then nothing changes.

Anotheron3 posted 3/21/2020 13:03 PM

Where are you that things are like that? Iím jealous. Lol

Let's just say it's a state where marriage is cheap and money is easily lost.

The problem you have is if they work together itís easy to have contact and keep it hidden.
R would require specific actions on her part which you donít have.

The capability is there for her to repeat her behavior if itís even stopped. She does nothing to fix herself then nothing changes.


I 100% agree with you. I also know if she changes her job that nothing could change and there could just be another guy.

Buster123 posted 3/21/2020 17:54 PM

Let's just say it's a state where marriage is cheap and money is easily lost.

Nevada ?

Newlifeisgreat posted 3/21/2020 19:35 PM

Hmmmmm

Just a guess.....
Ahhhh..... Nevada??????

Anotheron3 posted 3/22/2020 15:44 PM

I canít confirm or deny that...

KingofNothing posted 3/22/2020 18:32 PM

Well, just answer this, was there a Liberace museum in your state at one point?

Anotheron3 posted 3/23/2020 09:33 AM

Well, just answer this, was there a Liberace museum in your state at one point?

...yes

KingofNothing posted 3/23/2020 11:03 AM

Asked and answered..

Newlifeisgreat posted 3/23/2020 12:15 PM

How are you doing?

Anotheron3 posted 3/23/2020 14:14 PM

Doing well, still trying not to revert. Those feelings come back every now and again, but I know what needs to be done. Everyday I'm losing her a little more and more in my mind emotionally. I guess that's a good thing.

Still waiting for her to sign the papers so I can file. She's hesitating for some reason. I'll find out later tonight where she is with it.

redwing6 posted 3/23/2020 19:25 PM

She's hesitating for some reason. I'll find out later tonight where she is with it.

From the outside, it's pretty obvious why she's hesitating. She's beginning to realize what she'd done and that there are now real consequences because of it. Your NC has shaken her pretty hard. After all you were doing a great "pick-me" dance and she was getting everything she wanted. Side cock and you giving her whatever she wanted...now suddenly...it's real. DIFFERENT...and she hasn't figured out what to do. Expect lots of tears...and "remorse" (it's really regret, because remorse is hard to do...). Stay the course. IF she actually starts showing you all those things she needs to do, you can always stop the D, but at this point, I don't think you should. It's gone way to far.


Marz posted 3/23/2020 20:00 PM

She's hesitating for some reason. I'll find out later tonight where she is with it.

She likes cake. Youíd be wise not to feed her more.

Only married 2 years ?

Repeats happen. I wouldnít hang around for round 2.

Newlifeisgreat posted 3/24/2020 06:30 AM

Good morning. Did you get her to sign the paperwork last night ?

Buffer posted 3/24/2020 06:36 AM

One day at a time brother.
Buffer

Stinger posted 3/24/2020 08:38 AM

I sincerely hope you divorce this woman. She is not a good person.
You are much better off without her.

Anotheron3 posted 3/25/2020 09:33 AM

Good morning all, I demanded she sign the papers yesterday and we did. We're on our way.

She's beginning to realize what she'd done and that there are now real consequences because of it. Your NC has shaken her pretty hard. After all you were doing a great "pick-me" dance and she was getting everything she wanted. Side cock and you giving her whatever she wanted...now suddenly...it's real. DIFFERENT...and she hasn't figured out what to do. Expect lots of tears...and "remorse" (it's really regret, because remorse is hard to do...). Stay the course. IF she actually starts showing you all those things she needs to do, you can always stop the D, but at this point, I don't think you should. It's gone way to far.

Precisely, I think this is what is happening as well. She had asked me the other night if I'd take her back if she chose to work on the marriage. I said no as she has shown no signs of wanting to work on the marriage. I asked her if the affair was still going on. She admitted that it was. At that point I said for sure no and demanded the papers to be signed.

KingofNothing posted 3/25/2020 09:56 AM

Your (state), is no fault and community property. Not too bad if you both are relatively equal wage earners. However, if she is living with the affair guy, that might be considered her being supported by him by your (state)'s divorce laws. Sadly adultery doesn't really impact the process in your (state), but if she spent a lot of money on her side piece, that might be something you could cite.

Not sure if it's helpful...

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