I was responding to you when SI went down.
I think you're doing yourself a disservice with this line of thinking.
First, as HoP says, you can't know the whole truth. Even if your WS remembers everything, there isn't enough time in the world to relate all the memories to you ... and no one remembers everything.
Second, you are making assumptions about your fellow BSes that are simply not warranted. For example, it took me months before I had confidence that I could distinguish truth from lies.
Third, if you want to heal, you need to focus on resolving your own pain and doing what you need to do to accomplish that.
Creating fanciful over-generalizations that make you a part of a class won;t help.
You were betrayed as an individual, and you can heal only as an individual.
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ETA: I can't figure out how to make the above less abrupt. My point is that you can recover without Reconciling, but you can do so only for yourself, and you must do it for yourself, taking into account your own individual characteristics, if you do it at all.
Over-generalizations waste time and energy. You don't need to be part of a group to need something from your W as a requirement for R. To succeed in R, you need to be in touch with yourself and go for what you want, even - especially - if you're unique.
Yes, we all need truth in order to R. But R will be easier to accomplish if your W decides to give the truth to you, Physics, than if she gives it to you, a BS. To R, she needs to love and be in love with you, not with the class of BSes.
[This message edited by sisoon at 1:48 PM, February 15th (Saturday)]