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fooled13years (original poster member #49028) posted at 8:44 PM on Thursday, June 11th, 2020
My wife and I met a 91 year old couple at the store last night.
In 1941 at the ripe old age of 19 they married. They have been married 71 years as of last night.
While they walked slower than many around them they were holding hands even though they both walked with canes.
They reminded me so much of my grandparents and I know that along the road they, and my grandparents, traveled there were troubles and rough spots but they all made it.
When I asked them what they attributed their success to the husband said “I always tell her she looks great because in my eyes she is the same as the day we married. I always complement her cooking even if the food is terrible because of all the thought, planning and love she put into it and I always tell her she is the best thing that has ever happened to me.”
The wife nodded her head then said “if I am wrong I apologize and if I am right I keep my mouth shut.”
I know I won’t live long enough to be married 71 years but it seemed to my wife and I that they not only had quantity of years but they also had quality of years too.
I removed myself from infidelity and am happy again.
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 9:22 PM on Thursday, June 11th, 2020
I think it all goes back to a single tenant: cherish.
Cherish what you have, even though it might not be the "greatest" or the "best."
Cherish the effort that goes into cherishing YOU, even though it might not be what you think you want.
When we marry, we take vows indicating that things might not be a bed of roses. It is very sad that so many people expect no hardship. no issues and no difficult decisions and bail at the first opportunity because it does not suit them.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 4:15 AM on Friday, June 12th, 2020
Often I think my grandparents generation had the depression, 2 world wars and unspeakable hardships in their lives.
They had real issues. My grandfather was a serial adulterer but my grandmother was more concerned about feeding their 10 children to worry about him.
She wanted a Divorce in her late 50’s and regretted that she kept him around.
They both passed in 2000 within 9 months of each other, Aged 85&89.
I hope, but doubt I will get to this age. Still, I look forward to grandchildren 🙏🏼
September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼
thatbpguy ( member #58540) posted at 10:01 PM on Friday, June 12th, 2020
I think it all goes back to a single tenant: cherish.
How true.
ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis
As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...
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