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BH2 and BH3 painting nursery

Hurtingnconfused posted 6/15/2020 03:47 AM

Ok it cant get any more Jerry Springer than this..,,,

The OW 2nd husband, who she calls husband is now convinced that STBXWH is in fact sleeping w her. BS3 which is her actual husband still believes her. However 2 and 3 are painting the nursery together tomorrow for the surrogate baby while shes here a state away for a MONTH!!

BH2 called me cause BH3 is convinced Im crazy. At any rate, I went to the hotel at 1;25am and my exs truck is right there in front of the hotel AGAIN. Youd think hed learn from the first time I videoed it n sent it to her BH3 to hide it. Of course she convinced BH3 that my STBXWH just fell asleep on the couch at the hotel on June 2nd,when I took the first video. Maybe hes still sleeping on the couch at the hotel a week later?

Called BH2 because he wanted to know and face timed him so it was actual time so he could see the very distinct license plate on exs truck right in front of the building..... at 1:30sm. Because BH2 is painting w BH3 hes gonna talk to him and show him the video. It sounds like a very strange relationship

BH2 is also trying to get BH3 to come here to catch them. He says he cant leave work, I have my own thoughts on that

Im checking w a lawyer tomorrow, if Im primary on the truck and the loan is from my account, can I legally repossess it if he misses a payment? Or not? I know he cannot finance another vehicle if I take this one. We do have another vehicle but its breaking down.

Im also considering calling his work m reporting his drug use. Ill get stuck w a few bills but she is used to a Mercedes diet and he has a 12 dollar an hour job and owes me.

Thoughts? Not doing anything until I talk to s lawyer and may pull my divorce. Its set to go thru July 8

[This message edited by Hurtingnconfused at 3:49 AM, June 15th (Monday)]

The1stWife posted 6/15/2020 05:29 AM

Blow this affair up any way you can!!!

Take the vehicle. Step 1.

Send the OW back to the guys who are dumb enough to take her back.

Report his drug use.

Remove his name from bank accounts or Open up your own bank accounts that he has no access to. Financially protect yourself.

You got this!

Hurtingnconfused posted 6/15/2020 06:50 AM

Not sure I can take the truck if his name is on it too and hes paid for this month

Not sure her guys are taking her back?! BH2 says hes done. BH3 sounds like he is extremely hen pecked and stupid

Cooley2here posted 6/15/2020 07:04 AM

Does she have some sort of magical body parts? Thats three guys mooning around her.
There was a very well known woman who had affairs with heads of state, tv big wigs, multimillionaires, you name it. She broke up marriages and wound up a diplomat. I have read a lot about her behavior trying to find what she had. I think she was a sociopath who was an expert at playing their egos and probably would do anything in bed.
You stbx is under the delusion that he is her Mr. Everything. Yes, until the next thing comes along.
You need to stay home, get your ducks in a row and let these three morons continue to wander around bumping into each other.
I wonder if she has a number system somewhat like a deli.

ChamomileTea posted 6/15/2020 09:51 AM

I think your best bet is to get completely out of this Jerry Springer episode. You've already done due diligence to the OBS, so you don't have that on your conscience. Now, you can just concentrate on your divorce and your recovery. Go NC. Stop checking up on your STBX. Let him go do whatever the hell it is he does while you work on your "meh". The opposite of love isn't hate. It's indifference. And that's where you'll find your zen.

As far as the truck goes, that should be decided in the settlement so that it's no longer a liability to you. As long as it's undecided and is NOT causing you any problems, lump it in with your NC. If that changes, let your attorney deal with it.

Watching your STBX fail is somewhat vindicating, I'll grant you. But ALL contact, even watching from a distance keeps you emotionally involved.

nekonamida posted 6/15/2020 10:03 AM

I think it's fine for you to help BH2 expose OW and shake BH3 out of his denial as long as you're willing and it's not overly inconveniencing you. Talk to a lawyer before you make any decisions about the truck or finances.

JanaGreen posted 6/15/2020 11:47 AM

Oh my stars. I need a flow chart! What the heck????

Hurtingnconfused posted 6/15/2020 13:38 PM


the short and dirty

Cheated 5 years ago because he was not "getting enough attention." Would pick fights so he could justify leaving and going to 1st OW. 5 years in false R.

Sent a note to all his facebook friends and typed to 2nd OW, "I dont remember you but.... " She responded with he had asked her out four times in high school and she turned him down because shew as dating an older MARRIED man.

Two weeks of talking on the phone with her, changing all his passwords, picking fights so he could go outside to talk to her till 2:30-3a. Warned OBS that this is what he is doing and he has a habit of it, with his first wife (multiple affairs) and me. Warned him and his wife that if STBX kept going down that road, OW2 was keeping him! Of course BS3 (read karma bus backed up) believes her!

he slept with her, admitted it to BS3 but "took it back" because he was confused. Now he is spending every night at the hotel with her BUT both BS2 and BS3 are in Idaho so they are not able to check up on her.

clear as mud? serial cheater and follows the same pattern. This one is going to end spectacularly! She is HIGHHHHHHHH maintenance and used to the nice things, not working, traveling and money. He has a 12 dollar an hour job and does not know how to budget. Life is going to crash soon as either the BS3 is going to show up, or she is going to run off with STBX and then realize she can not maintain her lifestyle of being job free and flitting around. Not sure where the Surrogate baby is going to end up in all this, BS2 says BS3 wont give up the baby.

Going to sit back and hopefully watch BS3 do something and wait for the fireworks! On the plus side, my dad said he would help me for a week on my house to get it sold and might have the handyman from AZ coming cuz he thinks his boss has Covid.

Hurtingnconfused posted 6/15/2020 17:21 PM

OK fire works happened!! SHE called my work to complain that I was harassing her on company time and stated "I really dont want her to get fired"! As I tell on myself all the time and my STBX worked for this same company.... They pretty much said what I was doing was not illegal if I was not on the clock. They laughed hard when I showed them the video time (1:14am and that I only sent it to BS2) They have known both of us and they do not like him at all.

Im thinking what a dumb bunny.... she gave HR her NAME. Also, he is a drug using delivery driver.... is that really a good idea? Using drugs on shift is provable with a drug test. stupid stupid.

Just got a text from her stating that any further dealing will be through her attorney. LOL I suppose her husbands got to her today. Thinking my STBX is in a world of hurt if she is panicking that bad. The attorney is her adoption attorney for this kid. Again, dont care and going to leave the viperous snake alone now that I proved she was a lying snake in the grass. Wonder how she talked herself out of this one. Not my circus, not my monkeys

Hurtingnconfused posted 6/16/2020 09:50 AM

ok, dumb, she is a dumb dumb blonde.

So since she called my work to try to get me fired, my HR and CEO are having an official letter written on letterhead stating her intent to get me fired.

She came to my house in her OWN CAR! and sat outside my house for more than 30 minutes. My STBX drove his own truck so she did not need to be there. We have cameras...... I video taped our camera feed as she is "calling her lawyer" on me if I video record her. LOL The lawyer is her adoption lawyer and I am thinking he is probably representing the BS3.

My STBX called and left a threatening voice mail on MY daughter's phone. Again.... dumb!

OHHHHH.... I work three jobs, I just have to stay busy. In my "other" job I work at the airlines. I was working the counter with one of my co-workers and she was sharing how they were gossiping about a skanky blonde woman who had flowers delivered all the time from her husband.... but was carrying on with some other dude. I started laughing and showed her a picture of my husband.... YUPPP its her!! We all had a really good laugh and she has gossip for the housekeepers this week. She will let me know when/if she leaves. I strongly suspect since OW went after me with a vengeance yesterday that BS2 and BS3 might have cut her off. She doesn't work and has Champaign taste. Thinking if the credit card is in her name, that is expensive to pay off, if it is in the BS3's name, he might have cut her off. The head housekeeper will let me know all the gossip as they know it.

Oh, the truck. My loan officer knew something was going on and she made a point of telling me, off the record, everything I needed to do and also emailed me a copy of the loan where Im primary and a copy of the title, again Im primary. She said to keep it on my phone in my email in case i get pulled over for "stealing" and that the cops can call her. She also said that if he misses a payment, even if we are divorced, I am entitled to protect my investment and take the truck! Sometimes it helps when they are just a self centered nasty ass hat

Dumb, just Dumb

[This message edited by Hurtingnconfused at 9:53 AM, June 16th (Tuesday)]

nekonamida posted 6/16/2020 13:32 PM

Good for you, HC! The karma bus is making extra stops for OW and STBX. Beep beep!

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