Hurtingnconfused posted 6/19/2020 14:47 PM

So, the drama continues. I had a rough couple of days, then my son tells me that STBWH's trucks transmission just fell out of his truck. 3,000!

I am still on the loan, primary actually. The truck is not worth the kind of money it is going to cost to replace it as we just got the truck four months ago, but he wants to fix it!

My loan officer is on my side. She told him that IF I signed a note stating he only pays half the mortgage, that he might be able to refinance under his name alone, and also ALMOST have enough to pay for the transmission. Not quite, about 800 short, but.... the sale of our third vehicle will cover this but he owes me HALF!

I told him I would sign off if he signed a piece of paper acknowledging that he owed X,Y, And Z and that if he did not pay, that he would pay for attorney fees and filing fees. Not sure if this is legal, but he is too dumb to challenge it. He could have also said "no" and I would have caved just to get it out of my name. I asked for direct deposit every two weeks.

At any rate, was ever so nice to him. Told him I forgave him and myself for this whole thing, that I understood where he was coming from. I also told him that since we were best friends for the last 12 years, I was not there to harm him and that I would work with him on a payment plan to pay me back everything he owes. He winced when I shared he was my best friend. He looks like hell, shaking, tired looking, cant concentrate.

I told him that I am financially ok right now, and I am, and that I knew he could not afford to pay on anything. I suggested he do his budget and get back with me on when he wants to start paying and how much. He has never done a budget in his life. He said he had no clue what his budget was and that he would get back to me this weekend. I offered to do it for him and he said he might have me do that.

At any rate, I am doing well. Had to laugh at Karma running him over again with his own truck. Not sure where the other woman is in all of this.... if she ran home to her BS and boyfriend or if she is still around.

Not that I was asking, but the main housekeeper in the hotel where she is staying is a co-worker at my second job..... they are all gossiping about her. The management there knows who I am as well so that will only add fuel to the fire now that that little tidbit got out.

almost, ALMOST feel sorry for both of them.

ZenMumWalking posted 6/23/2020 09:58 AM

BEEP BEEP

Chaos posted 6/23/2020 10:02 AM

With his own truck

EllieKMAS posted 6/23/2020 10:34 AM

Trust55 posted 6/23/2020 15:44 PM

I can't quit laughing.

Hurtingnconfused posted 6/23/2020 15:49 PM

Didn’t go looking but BH is in town for “their” here baby shower! Another one to be held in their state. Made me laugh as she deliberately tagged my STBXWH as a thank you for watching “someone”. Dog maybe?

He is now working on our house for $10 an hour, what I offered someone else. I did his budget for him, he’s screwed! Apparently having a wife that has always worked 3 jobs led to a cushy life! Reality is not nice for him now. No internet, no multi channels, living in his brothers basement apartment without any of his pets that drove me crazy from the smell

In the mean time my dad has asked that I stay with him for up to 2 years to save up even more for a house when I move. He wants his kids around him and will pay for everything except my car n insurance. I’m working on his house for “rent” as there’s stuff he cannot do, so far a fair exchange. Work is giving me up to 20 hours of OT a week so life is finally good for me. Sad that it happened this way

Hurtingnconfused posted 6/23/2020 15:50 PM

Didn’t go looking but BH is in town for “their” here baby shower! Another one to be held in their state. Made me laugh as she deliberately tagged my STBXWH as a thank you for watching “someone”. Dog maybe?

He is now working on our house for $10 an hour, what I offered someone else. I did his budget for him, he’s screwed! Apparently having a wife that has always worked 3 jobs led to a cushy life! Reality is not nice for him now. No internet, no multi channels, living in his brothers basement apartment without any of his pets that drove me crazy from the smell

In the mean time my dad has asked that I stay with him for up to 2 years to save up even more for a house when I move. He wants his kids around him and will pay for everything except my car n insurance. I’m working on his house for “rent” as there’s stuff he cannot do, so far a fair exchange. Work is giving me up to 20 hours of OT a week so life is finally good for me. Sad that it happened this way

nekonamida posted 6/24/2020 17:54 PM

Sad that it happened this way

Trust me, it will pass. Pretty quickly when you can dab your tears with all the dollars you will be saving in part by not having your STBX around to spend it all.

The other good news is that if his truck kicks the bucket, he can start riding the karma bus permanently.

Hurtingnconfused posted 6/24/2020 18:22 PM

“ride the karma bus permanently!!” Oh I just HOWLED