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Dadchats (original poster new member #74672) posted at 8:02 PM on Monday, July 13th, 2020
Long story short my ex cheated with her coworker, then left me and our children for that relationship. Initially she said she was torn, was hot and cold via messenger then just nothing unless its about bills etc. When I asked for the other housekey back she said no as her stuff is still here. She was already at the house at this time to collect some essentials. I said I won't do anything to your stuff and you can collect anytime. This was over 5 weeks ago which was the last time I saw her. She has shown no interest in getting back together since. I haven't chased or pursued in this time. Any ideas why she won't give the key back. Many thanks
crazyinlove1995 ( member #53591) posted at 8:28 PM on Monday, July 13th, 2020
Sorry your here man.I would and did change the fucking locks and throw her shit in the yard.I know its gonna be hard but try and see her for what she is at this moment.Shes not giving you much to work with..Protect you,protect your kids.Sit back and watch the train head off the track.Youve got this.
Peace
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Two Son's 24and12
Daughter In peace
dblackstar2002 ( member #70704) posted at 8:28 PM on Monday, July 13th, 2020
Could be any number of reasons. But I would just change my locks and move on. Any one who could so easily toss you and your kids aside, Is not worth your time or your worry. From here on out if anyone asks you about her your response should be. Don't know, Don't care....
Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 8:51 PM on Monday, July 13th, 2020
Change the locks ASAP. If she needs her essentials she can pick them up at an agreed time. She is not safe or trustworthy, also OM has access to your home. Lock it down, good luck.
Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 33 years
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 9:03 PM on Monday, July 13th, 2020
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
HellFire ( member #59305) posted at 9:31 PM on Monday, July 13th, 2020
If you can't change the locks,because it is still her legal residence,or her name is on the lease, then add a few more locks to the doors. Simple solition.
But you are what you did
And I'll forget you, but I'll never forgive
The smallest man who ever lived..
Chili ( member #35503) posted at 10:00 PM on Monday, July 13th, 2020
Yep - figure out a way to keep your physical and emotional space safe. My assclown (and those of a lot of other folks here) tried to use belongings and all that mess to literally keep one foot in the door somehow.
If they are things she needs now, then you can ask for a list and place the items in the garage or driveway or front porch on an arranged day.
Separation of property any further can be addressed with your attorney if you're going that route. Usually the same deal though - things appear on a list - not with one party roaming around helping themselves to anything they want whenever they want.
2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett
LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 11:33 PM on Monday, July 13th, 2020
Has she returned to your house when you were not home?
I left my WH and have a key to our family home.
I always negotiated access to my home to collect my belongings ever since. Our son still resides there too.
WH had covert cameras in my old bedroom. How creepy.
Maybe get a security camera installed somewhere that sends you an alert.
If your children still live with you, call it a security measure.
September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼
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