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2nd husband of OW just called

Hurtingnconfused posted 7/25/2020 09:53 AM

So for those who missed it, Exwh was chatting with a girl he liked in high school. Watched and listened, recognized the signs. Warned her BS#3 that my then WH and his wife were gonna have an affair. They did. Gave evidence. No one believed me. Got a divorce July 8th snd moved on.

Her 2nd husband shared how she cheated on #1 with him, she cheated on him (#2) with #1 and then she remarried #1 again.... making #1 and #3 the same guy.,,,, Then cheated on #3 with #2!! Follow that? But OF COURSE she couldnít possibly cheat on 1/3 or #2.... I was obviously crazy. Ok whatever. Not my circus not my monkeys. I THINK #2 was the married teacher she was ďdatingĒ In high school and broke up his marriage.

#2 Calls me last night to tell me I wasnít crazy, that his exww was asking for a divorce to be with my Exwh. Heís devastated. Told me he threw away 10 years of his life waiting on this chick. Wants my Exís phone number. um No. Told me he unblocked my number now cuz Iím not crazy and to keep his. Um again, Iím divorced, I only care about getting the house sold and I knew I was not crazy.

#3 paid 130,000 for a surrogate baby due any day now. Asked if she was getting the kid. Was told no. Not sure I believe that as sheís manipulated three men into all believing sheís gonna be with them, only. Thinking on it, donít care. Exwh is a somewhat good dad and will treat the kid as his own. He has terrible boundaries but loves kids.

So, thinking I should be hurt that heís ending up with his affair partner. Iím not. I go between laughing as she is used to lots of money and not working .... he has none, and ďgood for him, maybe heíll finally be happy.Ē He lives in his brothers 2nd bedroom in a tiny basement apartment. Sheís liking the drama now but once the reality sits in that he has no money, no ambition, and that yes he is wonderfully affectionate, heís also an alcoholic and pot user. I donít see this ending well and I just laugh. Guess Iím healing.

Thoughts ??? It just seems too comical to be real

nekonamida posted 7/25/2020 10:13 AM

Wow! Amazing that your XWH might become #4. I wonder who she cheats on him with if 1-3 have wisened up. Sounds like a match made in hell.

Justsomeguy posted 7/25/2020 10:25 AM

What a complete shit show!

The1stWife posted 7/25/2020 16:01 PM

Would make a great Broadway musical!!!

Hurtingnconfused posted 7/25/2020 18:13 PM

I like musicals! Especially Grease and Mama Mia

Ratpicker posted 7/26/2020 15:53 PM

It could be a musical! Mama Three-ia

Gemini71 posted 7/26/2020 16:22 PM

The best revenge, let them make each other miserable.

Glad you moved on. Took me way too long to do that.

Hurtingnconfused posted 7/26/2020 20:44 PM

have hatched an EVIL plot. Think Iím gonna suggest they buy me out of our home so that they can show ďstability.Ē Gotta have a home for that 130,000 surrogate baby. Sell it for the equity, take most of it, suggest they use the remainder for their lawyer and laugh sll the way to the bank. Heíll have his spent in a month.

Iím also gonna suggest, since sheís had 13 back surgeries and canít work, that they become foster parents ....... they need the income and our 4 bedroom house will be PERFECT for them!!!

I know they wonít get licensed as he canít stop smoking pot and drinks heavily..., But it would get me out of the house immediately and I could stick him with it!

I know itís wrong, I know itís evil, but it does make me laugh. Actually if I was staying here in Montana, Iíd keep the house, live in the basement and rent out the top for the whole mortgage payment. If he was smart, heíd jump on it

Still might keep the house, depending on this job offer coming from another state.

Tigersrule77 posted 7/27/2020 08:11 AM

Your plan is not evil. YOU cannot control his actions, clearly, or he would not have cheated. He makes his own decisions. The fact that you can see the likely outcome only makes you wise. If he chooses to go down a path and make bad decisions, you are not responsible for the outcome. The only way you would be EVIL is if you lied to him or coerced him in some way.

You are proposing a solution that helps you. Whether or not it benefits your XWW is not your concern any more.

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