Hi messyleslie,
These are my favorite posts. We are all in pain at some degree in the process so it is so nice to share the happy moments, too, because they do happen! (refer to my topic
A good day - thanks friends - we can make it :)
)
I think it's great you are turning the process into small joys, as you should! I love the Taylor Swift thing you mentioned - I put on music sometimes now on the weekend he would never listen to.
Some things that make me happy now:
Landscape planning the way I want the yard to look with no argument
re-arranging and sprucing up the garage (paint, shelf liner, organizational bins (he always thought this a waste of time/money)
Not having anxiety as soon as he would pull up to the house wondering what mood he was in
using the laptop whenever I want
eating cauliflower that I could never make because he hated it and the smell
looking at Pinterest for an hour without being told I'm wasting time and there's stuff to do
the dishwasher is packed correctly (ha! seems to be a common theme here..)
papers are not all over the tables
Jackets not on back of chairs
The avocado I bought for dinner tomorrow is still there when I go to use it in my recipe
the toothpaste tube is rolled, not squished
toilet paper is 'OVER' now, not under
I leave the clothes in the dryer until I get around to folding or hanging
sleeping on both sides of the bed with no hotspots
I can snore but not have trouble sleeping because of his snoring
coming and going as I please with our without the kids
Taking off for a weekend with the kids without negotiation of doing what he wants or doesn't want to do
Announcing what I am doing rather than asking permission
the more things I type here the happier I am :)
Enjoy that bathroom cabinet!