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 TrustedHer (original poster member #23328) posted at 6:09 AM on Saturday, September 5th, 2020

D&S is where I hang out, so this is where I will post. I am slightly inebriated. Those are often the best posts...

I moved 900 miles away from my adult children and because of 2020 I haven't seen them in ages. I came back for a visit and there's some weirdness.

I went to the piano bar where my son plays tonight. Because of Covid, they play for tips, not wages. They play outside. And there's only one pianist plus one drummer, not the normal 2 pianists plus 1 drummer.

There was a moderate crowd, and I was happy to see a lot of people hitting the tip jar. Unfortunately, he had to do Piano Man twice, but that's what happens when you do paid requests.

Right away I noticed that OM#1, who is well known to my children, was in the audience. During the break, I asked my son if OM#1 was good to him. That's all that matters, really. He's nothing to me after all this time.

Yes, he tips the boy well. So that's good. But also, I learned that he's now, all of a sudden, gay. He was sitting with his new boyfriend.

Yes. The first man who fucked my wife turned gay afterwards.

I can't actually explain this, but I find it humorous.

Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:39 AM on Saturday, September 5th, 2020

Life takes funny turns.Glad he’s nice to your DS. Stay well, TH!

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 8:31 AM on Saturday, September 5th, 2020

Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55

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josiep ( member #58593) posted at 5:38 PM on Saturday, September 5th, 2020

And so many men torment themselves thinking the OM is so much more manly than they are. Obviously, that's not the case.

REally glad to hear you got to see your kids again after too long apart. I hope the rest of your visit goes/went well.

BW, was 67; now 74; M 45 yrs., T 49 yrs.DDay#1, 1982; DDay#2, May, 2017. D July, 2017

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99problems ( member #59373) posted at 5:39 PM on Saturday, September 5th, 2020

OMFG 😅🤣

Well thanks for the laugh, please post more often!

Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,

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Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 7:10 PM on Saturday, September 5th, 2020

Yes. The first man who fucked my wife turned gay afterwards.

Well, this is the first time I have read this twist on SI.

How do you feel about this new revelation? What is your son's response.

I am actually speechless...how odd this is.

Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver

Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie

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JustLearning ( member #43912) posted at 9:49 PM on Saturday, September 5th, 2020

Yes. The first man who fucked my wife turned gay afterwards.

I think what you meant to say was this:

I thought she treated ME badly. She treated her first AP so bad, he switched teams.

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traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 3:35 PM on Sunday, September 6th, 2020

Yes. The first man who fucked my wife turned gay afterwards.

I may or may not have spat coffee all over myself when I read this

BTW, yay! You were able to travel to see the boys

Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

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WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 3:39 PM on Sunday, September 6th, 2020

This made my day!!

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 3:54 AM on Tuesday, September 8th, 2020

A gentle reminder...Being gay does not make one less manly, it just makes you gay. And one dosen't become gay. They are just gay, maybe conflicted or confused about identity due to other factors. I think the shaming is off side. No disrespect intended.

I'm an oulier in my positions.

Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.

Divorced

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Westway ( member #71747) posted at 10:46 PM on Wednesday, September 9th, 2020

I'm glad your son at least appreciated you coming to see him.

Me: 52;

XWW: 50 y.o. serial cheater

Married 22 years, Together 24
2 Daughters: aged 16 and 20
DDay: 9/20/19
Divorced 12/03/20.

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