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I did it! I moved out

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betrayedafter20 posted 9/13/2020 11:31 AM

CBS I am so happy to hear this! Heartfelt congratulations. You will be amazed how free you will feel. Celebrating with you :)

betrayedafter20 posted 9/13/2020 11:35 AM

You figured it out. You were alone all along but putting up with a jerk. Being alone is nothing new. It's just way more pleasant.
COULD NOT BE MORE TRUE for me too. And don't be surprised how quickly you start loving the days off from the kids... (my kids are about the same ages)

BetterTimesAhead posted 9/13/2020 17:41 PM

Great news! Taking that step must have been difficult but I'm glad that you are already feeling the positive results.

Enjoy your new place and your time with the kids.

barcher144 posted 9/13/2020 18:28 PM

Well I canít believe it! I did it! Iím in my own place and it is so peaceful.

I donít miss him and that really says a lot.

Of course he made the move as difficult as possible for me we even argued in front of the movers and I was crying for most of it, I am just happy itís all put behind me now.

Whatís interesting is I was never able to be alone when I was younger and feeling alone in the marriage all these years must have really done a number on me because I like being alone right now.

Just canít believe I did it I have overcome my greatest fears.

Congratulations! I am VERY happy for you.

I quoted a lot of stuff (separately) because I experienced so much stuff that was similar to what you wrote.

I don't know if it is a warning or not (kinda/sorta?), but I was so happy to be separated that I experienced about 4-6 weeks of almost manic. I mean, I didn't do anything stupid like go out and buy a car because of the mania, but I was just so happy experiencing life without the burden of my STBX. Just be ready for it if it happens.

You have been through a lot of crap. Go easy on yourself, but it's going to be better now.

WhoTheBleep posted 9/13/2020 18:30 PM

I was so happy to be separated that I experienced about 4-6 weeks of almost manic. I mean, I didn't do anything stupid like go out and buy a car because of the mania, but I was just so happy experiencing life without the burden of my STBX.

I experienced this as well. Most days, I had to struggle NOT to skip like Dorothy from The wizard of Oz ...instead of walk. I just felt so light!!

I'm so proud of you, Crazy. Enjoy your new digs!!

cantaccept posted 9/15/2020 18:50 PM

I am so happy for you! Congratulations! What you did was brave and awesome!

Planetx posted 9/15/2020 20:31 PM

So happy for you! Hope you enjoy many peaceful moments there.

DevastatedDee posted 9/16/2020 08:33 AM

I don't know if it is a warning or not (kinda/sorta?), but I was so happy to be separated that I experienced about 4-6 weeks of almost manic. I mean, I didn't do anything stupid like go out and buy a car because of the mania, but I was just so happy experiencing life without the burden of my STBX. Just be ready for it if it happens.

Same! I have never unpacked after moving so quickly! Within a month I had painted rooms, painted furniture, bought a gazillion yard tools, cleared the yard and planted trees and plants all over the place. I don't know what I would have done had I not had the house to obsess about, lol. I did more in that first month than I would usually do in an entire summer.

gmc94 posted 9/16/2020 10:10 AM

Congratulations! I'm so happy for you, CBS.

Somber posted 9/16/2020 11:41 AM

I am so happy for you. Congratulations for taking the difficult step and moving towards a healthier lifestyle for you and your kids. Enjoy those free happier stress free moments.

crazyblindsided posted 9/16/2020 14:44 PM

I have never unpacked after moving so quickly!

I had to laugh at this because I have already unpacked everything within a week I feel great though. Totally living my best life without the anchor.

Thank you to everyone for the support and congrats. It's true what they say here the fear was stronger than the action of separating. It feels good to be free!

betrayedafter20 posted 9/16/2020 19:37 PM

I think I'm still in manic mode..

I've spent about $300 a week on stuff from homegoods and TJ maxx getting rid of stuff and changing the look of all the rooms in the house - psychologically making it "mine" ??? I'm even having trees taken out of the yard. WTH? lol not good

I don't have the budget for that, need to stop..

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