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Xwh and ow arguing :)

Brokenheart29 posted 11/21/2020 02:55 AM

Hi guys!

Not posted here in a long while. My xwh and ow bought a huge expensive house in March that they canít afford. Itís been 4 years since dday but it still stung. My dd refuses to have anything to do with her dad. Heís been pretty awful to her and has always put ow first. My ds sleeps at his dads once a week. My ds is 4 (my xwh was cheating while I was pregnant )
Ow was awful to me when it all came out. It was a horrendous time in my life when I should have been enjoying a newborn.
My ds told me last night that he was woken up last weekend with them screaming at each other. He said they didnít know they had woken him up (heís a real deep sleeper so it must of been a huge screaming match) he said they were shouting they were going to sell the house. Itís nice to know that the grass isnít greener and karma is about. Imagine what goes on that I donít know

homewrecked2011 posted 11/21/2020 07:09 AM

Get the popcorn 🍿 popping!

BTW, I know exactly how you feel!!!!!
My children came home from a shortened Fatherís Day visit saying the OW and XWH were yelling and fighting. OW was hitting their Dad and locked him out of the house!!!!! My kids left (they could drive by then) and they rarely visit Dad anymore. AND OW own son moved in with his own Dad after a couple of years of the fighting.

Sorry our children have to hear this. However my friend told me she was brought up with 2 distinctly different households, and when she grew up she knew exactly which type of home she wanted to recreate!

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 7:10 AM, November 21st (Saturday)]

The1stWife posted 11/21/2020 08:15 AM

Thanks for sharing.

I say this so many times to so many BS ó just because they end up together does not mean itís all roses and sunshine.

BearlyBreathing posted 11/21/2020 13:12 PM

So predictable. Sorry your DS had to witness that mess.

Brokenheart29 posted 11/22/2020 05:03 AM

Homewrecked2011 wow, that is pretty crazy! I think that my xwh and ow will be super similar. Staying together but being miserable. Itís what they both deserve. Soul mates etc etc
The1stwife itís why I wanted to post this. I remember in the beginning being devastated that my xwh and ow stayed together when so many people told me it wouldnít last. I just want others to know that behind closed doors that it isnít as nice and perfect as they want you to believe. My xwh still tells me he regrets his decisions everyday. I tend to not listen now as he stayed with her therefore he canít be that regretful. But knowing that ow is experiencing how shit a partner he is and vice versa with money problems thrown in it just helps me feel a small bit better about everything.
Barelybreathing I know I feel so sorry for ds having to listen to them screaming and knowing he was probably anxious about it

OwningItNow posted 11/22/2020 05:09 AM

Your stupid exWH brought his same dumb self and issues to the next R like everyone does. He shouldn't have been a coward and run away from his brokenness because--wherever you go, there you are! This is why they always look back at their cheating and leaving with regret, whether they ever admit it or not.

Gottagetthrough posted 11/22/2020 11:54 AM

When wh left ow 1 and i asked about their relationship (thinking it was wonderful) he laughed and said no way! We had so many screaming matches! So loud that the dogs got scared and would hide... later learned he cheated on ow 1 many times...

It took ten years and another ow to learn that he was cheating on ow 1 left and right... and i thought they had a great relationship and were happy

ZenMumWalking posted 11/23/2020 02:58 AM

Aww, poor widdle asswipe - let me go find my teeny weeny viowiiiiiiiiiiiinnnnnn.........

Couldn't happen to a nicer douchebag!!


ps, save me some popcorn......

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