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SisterMilkshake (original poster member #30024) posted at 2:46 PM on Monday, March 5th, 2012
Has anyone read 50 Shades of Grey by E.L. James?
It is said to be and Adult Romance and is a 2011 goodreads choice award and a 2011 Best Romance Finalist.
I think I want to read this trilogy but am worried about it being too triggery.
Anyone read it and want to share your thoughts?
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
smith ( member #13803) posted at 6:51 PM on Monday, March 5th, 2012
I've read the whole trilogy, there isn't really any triggery stuff in there but there is some intense BDSM stuff and graphic sex scenes.
SisterMilkshake (original poster member #30024) posted at 7:17 PM on Monday, March 5th, 2012
Did you enjoy it? Dumb question if you read all three books!! 
I am not a prude and am adventurous, but not into BDSM. Is it way over the top BDSM or more mainstream?
I am afraid that there may be affairs in the book and I really couldn't handle that above anything else. Graphic sex is fine with me. 
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
smith ( member #13803) posted at 8:27 PM on Monday, March 5th, 2012
I did enjoy the books, the first 2 more than the 3rd. There aren't any affairs in the books but most of the sex scenes are BDSM in nature.
starrysky ( member #14669) posted at 6:56 AM on Friday, March 9th, 2012
I've read all three and LOVE them!! Here's a tiny bit of info for you; originally "50 Shades of Grey" was written as a Twilight fan fiction story called "Master of the Universe" 
Christian = Edward Anastasia = Bella ; of course the names had to be changed once the author was invited to publish the story but I actually read the fan fiction story before the published version.
At any rate, there is no infidelity in all of the 3 books but definitely lots & lots of steamy, yummy sex (and yes, BDSM situations).
"The grass is not greener on the other side, it's greener where you water it"
Me(37)-FWW/BS
Him(36)-BH/WH The love of my life
2 Daughters: 15,11
Married 14 years Together 17 years
11 Month EA & PA
Beautifully Reconciled
starrysky ( member #14669) posted at 6:59 AM on Friday, March 9th, 2012
I also wanted to add one thing; while there is no infidelity in the 3 books, Anastasia (the lead female) does worry about Christian still being friends/business partners with the lady who introduced him to the BDSM lifestyle. At times, Anastasia feels she won't be able to fulfill Christian's needs (she isn't into the heavier part of the BDSM lifestyle) & on occasion worries that Christian will "visit" this other lady. I suppose that could be triggery so I thought I'd mention it but there is NO infidelity.
"The grass is not greener on the other side, it's greener where you water it"
Me(37)-FWW/BS
Him(36)-BH/WH The love of my life
2 Daughters: 15,11
Married 14 years Together 17 years
11 Month EA & PA
Beautifully Reconciled
ladyvorkosigan ( member #8283) posted at 11:36 AM on Friday, March 9th, 2012
I find BDSM stuff really cheesy, but I actually liked this and the sequel. I don't read Twilight but could not discern its roots until after I read it and someone told me.
It felt kind of late 80s/early 90s to me, like one of those Jayne Ann Krentz books with the corporate hero and the Seattle setting. I kept picturing Patrick Bateman as the lead, since his name was Christian and he's a suit.
It nagged him, in particular, that none of the girls he’d known so far had given him a sense of unalloyed triumph.
SisterMilkshake (original poster member #30024) posted at 2:35 PM on Friday, March 23rd, 2012
This book was being talked about, again, on CBS This Morning. It is in the top 10 ebooks. It is being talked about becoming a movie.
I still haven't read it. Thanks for everyone's comments. I will be reading it.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
ArialRose ( member #24735) posted at 4:16 PM on Friday, March 23rd, 2012
I read the first 2, loved the 1st one. Not so much the 2nd. Not in a hurry to read the 3rd. I can get mushy ILY forever, soulmate crap anywhere. I wanted to read about the whole Dom/Sub stuff because it was different and interesting...okay arousing.
The second one just didn't do it for me like the first.
ArialRose-BS
in our 40's
M 28 years, together 30 years
3 DSs (adult)
D-Day: 3/23/09, Major TT 2/10/10 5/24/10,10/30/10, & 12/12/10.
Inappropriate online conversations on my part- 10/2011
FOR FUCKS SAKE!
ladyvorkosigan ( member #8283) posted at 7:47 PM on Friday, March 23rd, 2012
Another thing that I think is interesting is that these really aren't books about a sub finding a Dom and living HEA in D/s relationship.
They're about a woman finding a man who is a Dom and over time they end up living HEA in a vanilla relationship.
So it's a "virgin reforming a rake" story, just set in Seattle, with a billionaire.
It nagged him, in particular, that none of the girls he’d known so far had given him a sense of unalloyed triumph.
wannabenormal ( member #19772) posted at 6:19 PM on Monday, March 26th, 2012
I'm curious why this paperback was $30 at the bookstore! I don't mind buyign books, but I can't pay $30 for a paperback. LOL!
I'm got tons of other stuff to get through first, so I can wait until it's a little cheaper.
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 8:05 AM on Monday, April 9th, 2012
I'm only 1/4 through the first one, and I just have to say that Crazz is in for some TROUBLE later!!
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 3:11 AM on Friday, April 27th, 2012
I am 1/3 the way thru #1. Just read about their first time together.
No triggers except for the fact that I have not had sex for a very long time. This reminded me of that.
hurtinghearts ( member #27232) posted at 5:23 PM on Friday, April 27th, 2012
I am about halfway through and am loving it.
Dday: Jan. 8th, 2010
OW#1 6 month PA...she is remorseful and forgiven. OW#2 The "therapist"... played head games with me. OW#3... loved to give blow jobs in her office. OW#4 the couple from Hell
livvylou ( member #26697) posted at 8:55 PM on Friday, April 27th, 2012
I read all 3 of these dang books last weekend. Yes, ALL 3. I guess I liked them
BS Me WS Him
R & doing well♥ (Dday 7/09 R 8/09)
The only thing more impossible than staying is leaving.
Jen ( member #26584) posted at 3:34 AM on Saturday, April 28th, 2012
http://now.msn.com/entertainment/0427-ellen-reads-erotic-book.aspx
this is soooo funny ... Ellen trying to narrate from one of the books ...
BTW no I have not read them, but this made me lmao ...
Me former Booger Bear ...
https://youtu.be/1TcLw3TOIN8
Hand Me Down MatchBox 20
https://youtu.be/iFdOAyyn76M
Love Falls by HellYeah
punky ( member #12233) posted at 4:56 AM on Saturday, April 28th, 2012
13 years later...finally healed. Definitely survived and thrived and you can, too.
Nicole5 ( member #17794) posted at 10:59 AM on Saturday, April 28th, 2012
punky...it had me stumped too. Maybe Happily Ever After?
divorced my WH on Nov 4, 2011
(see my profile for "the story")
INeedMoreCoffee ( member #30820) posted at 7:07 PM on Saturday, April 28th, 2012
Just finished #1
Loved it!!!! Didn't find it at all Triggery.
Amazon here I come for #2 and #3
jadedheart ( member #32046) posted at 2:15 AM on Sunday, April 29th, 2012
This is on my list for audiobooks! I listen while driving to work etc. Can't wait to get it!
Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."
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