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50 Shades of Grey

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Myheartstillhurt ( member #32430) posted at 7:15 AM on Friday, May 4th, 2012

I have not read these books, but a good friend of mine flew through them and is now very sexually frustrated with her H.

Like for 2 weeks she has been talking about how he cannot be freaky enough and he is kind of a bore in the bedroom.

I'm nervous to read them because I don't want to come out feeling like that. Anyone else have this problem?

BS(me) 34
fWH 38 (Epicallyfailedu)
OW/xBFF of 28 years
Four girls under 11
DDay: 6/5/2010

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fourever ( member #30631) posted at 2:54 AM on Wednesday, May 9th, 2012

I read all three, found them fun. My FWH is reading them now. Let's just say, it's been fun.

Send them to his/her reader.

In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.

Always, tell the other BS! Always!

"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 3:53 AM on Wednesday, May 9th, 2012

I have not read these books, but a good friend of mine flew through them and is now very sexually frustrated with her H.

Like for 2 weeks she has been talking about how he cannot be freaky enough and he is kind of a bore in the bedroom.

I'm nervous to read them because I don't want to come out feeling like that. Anyone else have this problem?

I have to admit, I kinda had this issue. It's been a while since I finished the book, so I think my expectations are "lowering."

I tried giving him the hint about some, ahem, directions we could take in the bedroom, but he just gets nervous when asked to go off-program. Le sigh.

(Crazz, if you're reading this, the book is on my dresser and you're welcome to it!)

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 3:54 AM on Wednesday, May 9th, 2012

Heard on the radio today that this is about to be banned in some libraries.

Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again

Staying together for the kids

D-day 2010

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Myheartstillhurt ( member #32430) posted at 4:06 AM on Wednesday, May 9th, 2012

Jrazz: As much as I want to jump on the bandwagon and read them (I know I would love them), I just don't want to feel that way.

I still have to finish Hunger Games anyway. I accidentally read a spoiler here that I thought said it was about the first book but it really said it was about the third. So I was on chapter 9 of the third book and found out some major things that are going to happen and it kinda ruined it. But I still want to finish it..

50 Shades of Grey just may not be in my future.

BS(me) 34
fWH 38 (Epicallyfailedu)
OW/xBFF of 28 years
Four girls under 11
DDay: 6/5/2010

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ladyvorkosigan ( member #8283) posted at 3:50 PM on Thursday, May 10th, 2012

Hrm, just got banned in the libraries here in Brevard, after they bought 19 copies and had 200 people on the waiting list. This is bullshit. Game of Thrones and True Blood are available for checkout, so I'm not sure why a book has to be pulled. Oh wait, yes I do, because it's only Your Mom who wants to read it, and Your Mom isn't supposed to want to read porn.

[This message edited by ladyvorkosigan at 9:51 AM, May 10th (Thursday)]

It nagged him, in particular, that none of the girls he’d known so far had given him a sense of unalloyed triumph.

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helpmeup ( member #27734) posted at 11:16 PM on Thursday, May 10th, 2012

"I tried giving him the hint about some, ahem, directions we could take in the bedroom, but he just gets nervous when asked to go off-program. Le sigh."

Jrazz - oh my, that is cracking me up. starting the 50 books this weekend and so we'l see if I have some luck in this arena. Can relate to needing to stay on "program". I have even suggested suggestive texts on the phone, verbatim ... to no avail! LOL! The upside? With no doubt in my mind I know that the OW got nothing but really bland vanilla. hee, hee, read 'em and weep, honey, cuz I am creating a loving machine here ...eventually

Me: 40's WH: 40's
M 19 years, 3 kids - the best!
DD#1 (2010)- a bit to tell
DD#2 (2012)- hmm, something new to tell!
TT (2 months later) - brings a new dimension to DD#1

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metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 3:07 PM on Friday, May 11th, 2012

Well crap. This is going to be a repeat of when I went to the bookstore to get the Fever series that you all recommended isn't it?

The kindly old lady chuckled at me and winked and led me to the Romance section. I was shamed down to my classic literature core (I know I know.. I'm over it thank you ).

She's going to get all creepy and winky at me again isn't she?

Because I am going to buy them.

Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.

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lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 3:09 PM on Friday, May 11th, 2012

I haven't read it, but some writer friends of mine have and they say it's very badly written. I'm guessing for most people, they aren't reading it for the descriptions of the bedroom wallpaper.

Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks

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metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 3:10 PM on Friday, May 11th, 2012

Oh.. and JSYK.. my completely stupid ideas about the romance genre and the like were based on my knowledge of Harlequins and a mother that looked like I had told her I was running away to join the circus when she saw that I bought Sweet Valley High with my allowance.

So yeah.. not rooted in anything reasonable or experience with it.

[This message edited by metamorphisis at 9:11 AM, May 11th (Friday)]

Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.

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ladyvorkosigan ( member #8283) posted at 4:36 PM on Friday, May 11th, 2012

Girl, this is why God herself made ebooks.

The 50 Shades cover was completely inconspicuous until everybody started talking about it. It's just a silver men's tie.

http://static.thehollywoodgossip.com/files/50-shades-of-grey-cover_300x400.jpg

But there are

http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1328176400l/6262135.jpg

a lot

http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1311033027l/12068902.jpg

of covers

http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1266666407l/4333951.jpg

that provide too

http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1258630404l/7165664.jpg

much

http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1237078978l/5041279.jpg

information

http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1266721567l/3576209.jpg

to be carted around

http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1328327805l/13159451.jpg

in real life.

It nagged him, in particular, that none of the girls he’d known so far had given him a sense of unalloyed triumph.

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metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 4:46 PM on Friday, May 11th, 2012

You are hilarious

Problem solved. Dh texted me to ask what I wanted for Mothers Day. I answered "Smut." and gave him the title. His problem now.

[This message edited by metamorphisis at 11:26 AM, May 11th (Friday)]

Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.

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StillGoing ( member #28571) posted at 5:17 PM on Friday, May 11th, 2012

Like for 2 weeks she has been talking about how he cannot be freaky enough and he is kind of a bore in the bedroom.

Well, this obviously means romance novels set unacceptable fantasy standards for men in the bedroom.

Tempus Fuckit.

- Ricky

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Lucky2HaveMe ( member #13333) posted at 5:20 PM on Friday, May 11th, 2012

Your H will get hi-5s instead of winks!

Wonder if the book comes wrapped in plain brown paper if you order from Amazon?!?

Love isn't what you say, it's what you do.

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metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 5:26 PM on Friday, May 11th, 2012

Like for 2 weeks she has been talking about how he cannot be freaky enough and he is kind of a bore in the bedroom.

I'm nervous to read them because I don't want to come out feeling like that. Anyone else have this problem?

I can pretty much guarantee if I read this to my husband he will buy me two copies, insist I read all day on Mothers Day and hire a sitter

Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.

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ladyvorkosigan ( member #8283) posted at 6:51 PM on Friday, May 11th, 2012

My GoodReads list in covers view is just a wall of absolute hilarity. Such *literal* covers. If you see a girl and 5 guys on the cover GUESS WHAT IT'S ABOUT. If you see a wolf GUESS WHAT IT'S ABOUT. Exactly what it says on the tin.

I've never understood the point in expecting something from your dude that he clearly cannot pull off. I think you pretty much know whether or not the guy you're with has this in him. And if you think he can possibly pull it off, the way to help the process is not going to begin with you saying "Why can't you be more like..." WCYBML is a confidence killer even if you're asking him to be more like a fictional person. If *this* is what you want, the last thing you should do is lower his confidence. Presumably you understand that he is never going to be a billionaire financier any more than you're going to be a virgin again, so I'm thinking you just want him to act more dominant. This is not the way to make him feel comfortable trying that on.

See now, meta is dealing with someone with the potential, and she knows it. If you're working with potential you know it. You go to war with the army you've got, ladies.

[This message edited by ladyvorkosigan at 12:55 PM, May 11th (Friday)]

It nagged him, in particular, that none of the girls he’d known so far had given him a sense of unalloyed triumph.

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TXMommy ( member #28857) posted at 4:08 PM on Thursday, May 17th, 2012

Metamorphosis... this is why you need a KINDLE! No going out for books anymore! Just download!

I have to admit, I was wanting more SUBSTANCE to these books. Being a twilight fan, I do love the parallels, but am disappointed in the characters. I am strangely drawn to the story, and pretty much hooked, though! I'm in the middle of book 2...

ME - BS - 38
WH - 34
15 years...
2 kids: D13, S7
D-Day: June 10th, 2010

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 4:55 PM on Thursday, May 17th, 2012

I'm about 1/4 of the way through book 2. Kinda slow going, IMHO.... Please tell me it "picks up"!

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 6:37 PM on Friday, May 18th, 2012

*GASP* I'm posting in the Book Club.

When you guys pick yourselves up out of the floor from shock, tell me if this is really worth reading.

I've been checking reviews and while it's a "Bestseller" blah, blah, blah, I'm seeing the writing is less than stellar, setting is in America but with oodles of British overtones (not that there's anything wrong with the British!) the writer overuses the same handful of phrases, so on and so forth.

Is it popular just because of all the BDSM hype? Yawn. There's plenty of good literotica with BDSM themes to not buy a poorly written trilogy. Curious of everyone's thoughts before I do or don't purchase this.

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

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RS2731 ( member #33947) posted at 7:02 PM on Friday, May 18th, 2012

Aub -

I'd say save your $$. I got the first one b/c of all the hype and I just don't get the hype. I'm sure it's b/c of the BDSM and some of those scenes are... fun to read , but the book itself is just really not worth it. I bought the second one b/c a friend told me it gets better, but I'm stuck in the first few chapters b/c I just don't care.

Me - BS, 36
Him - WH, 36
Married - 11 years
DS - 4
D-Day - September 2011
In process of R.

You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.

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