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 tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 11:53 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013

Ex-shat texts me last night saying OC has some kind of crazy contagious rash, maybe we should switch weekends so Teslet is not exposed. I text him last night that if he feels it is contagious then I would prefer to switch weekends...but since it is only Tuesday, if he wanted to wait until Wednesday night to make that call, that was fine.

Here is the text I received this morning:

Looked into it, apparently there are a lot of kids up to age 6 who are coming in with this same virus. Doctor doesn't even know what it is, but cautions that it appears highly contagious for the first five days. I'm missing Teslet something fierce, maybe I can come and take him out for dinner Monday. Doc says the contagion should pass after about five days, tho in truth I'm not sure how they can be sure of that when they don't even know what it is. But I think I should err on the side of caution, it is a miserable sickness and I would not want Teslet to suffer it.

Are you sure you want to pursue this lawsuit? I really, really don't want any more contention between us. If you need a couple grand I will just give it to you. You surely must realize that if I'm forced to counter sue that you will end up owing me thousands...

I accept that you hate me, tho I still very much love you, you gave me the best son I could have ever hoped for. And if we could just be civil with one another I woud gladly help you out any time you need it so long as it's in my power. I am only now catcdhing up from the separation and divorce. With my head above water in the near future, I will happily help out, as I see it as being in the best interest of our son. I truly am sorry that things got so fucked up so quickly. You were right in part that I was not myself. I've sought and found remediation with my psychiatrist and am now under her direct supervision to aid in my recovery. I've made very significant progress with my medication regiment and for the first time in a long time I am seeing things lucidly again. With that being said, I'm sorry. You are a wonderful woman and deserve better than me. My regret is that I lost sight of myself and have messed up your life so terribly when you deserve so much better. but I have a daughter now that I cherish, Teslet's little sister and I have irrevocably changed the course of our lives. I know you will not forgive me, but it is my deepest desire that we can somehow find a way to reconcile for Teslet's sake. I take responsibility for my mistakes, I was not myself. I had lost sight of my own principles and have suffered endlessly ever since. Can we please find a way to get along, I've always held you in the highest regard. I credit you for getting me through my roughest patches and I know I owe you a great debt. I wish I could turn back time but I cannot. What I can do is try to be the man I've always aspired to be. Are you pusuing this lawsuit to punish me or do you need the money? I told you at the beginning of this that I would not let you languish. I am finally in a position to make good on that. But we need to reconcile our differences. I once told you that I believed there was some frailty within us both and that perhaps we were each others remedy. It would seem my frailties were stronger than my constitution. I truly am sorry for hurting you. I wish I could turn back time, but all I can do is try and be a good father...

I couldn't help myself.

I sent this:

We will figure on switching weekends...I will reflect that on the google calendar and send you a confirmation text this evening.

If you would like to take GTeslet to dinner on Monday, please let me kjnow the time you would like to pick him up. I am not suing you. I am asking you to pay the amount of the tax refund that you agreed to pay me in the settlement. I wish you happines, contentment and peace in your new life. I have been lucky enough to have found all of those in my new life.

I do sincerely hope that he becomes a good father for Teslet. As to the rest...fuck him. I don't not need that codependent cycle of misery back.

[This message edited by tesla at 5:59 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 11:56 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013

That's a wonderful response, tesla. Better than he deserved.

((((hugs))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Must Survive ( member #34533) posted at 12:03 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

Wow, just wow on that.

You responded. I don't think I could have responded at all. There was so much in there to work with.

Poor Muffin!

Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorced-Let my new beginning start

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen

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JustDone ( member #9742) posted at 12:09 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

...and I know I owe you a great debt.

If this email was even partly true, I hope he pays it - at least the money part.

Hugs!

Madhatter
Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

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phmh ( member #34146) posted at 12:19 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

Ugh. Sorry you had to read that, but I'm glad it came late enough in your healing s that you're not tempted to fall for that crap.

If he's so sorry, how about returning your dog? Jackass. All words, no actions.

He is right that you are a strong and awesome lady. I'm sure he does regret every day leaving you for a stripper whore, but that's no longer your problem!!!

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

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grace68 ( member #28241) posted at 12:38 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

Love it when a WS gets a hold of a thesaurus.

Me - BS
Him - Doesn't Matter
Status: Divorced

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Housefulloflove ( member #38458) posted at 12:54 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

As to the rest...fuck him. I don't not need that codependent cycle of misery back.

That was an excellent reply! I don't think I could have handled that long-winded nonsense so well. If he's working on being a better guy and truly realized how fucked up he is, he would probably get that being forced to pay what he owes is NOT to "punish" him. He should regret a whole lot at this point but it seems like what he really regrets is being in a position that forces him to take some accountability.

Tesla won't back down. Hmmmm..none of my normal moves are working. I know, time to wear the "Mr. Epiphany" mask! A little flattery, some pretend remorse and a pinch of "this is for the good of all" and she'll roll over! FTG!

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

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ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 1:30 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

That response was perfect.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 1:30 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

That response was perfect.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 1:30 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

That response was perfect.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 1:30 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

That response was perfect.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 1:30 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

That response was perfect.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 1:30 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

That response was perfect.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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donotlietome ( member #26478) posted at 1:41 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

You really are a super cool girl!!! Too smart for that dipwad!!! Maybe you should send stripperho a present. That slut did you a favor.

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alphakitte ( member #33438) posted at 1:43 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

Well, apparently, your response was perfect! LOL!

I take responsibility for my mistakes, I was not myself.

Now that might have made sense if it were two separate sentences, but when separated by a comma it is just blameshifting!

------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt

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Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 2:03 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

Dear asshat, which self were you when you stole my dog?

FTG

Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 2:17 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

I swear tesla it reminds me of the same shit my ex has said to me. words words words blah blah blah.

D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

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tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 2:18 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

This is what I read:

"Tesla, you are amazing (please don't sue me), and I'm so sorry for what I've done (please don't sue me). I've always held you in high esteem (pretty please don't sue me), and I hope that we can be friends again someday because you are the most awesome person ever (you're not going to sue me, right?)."

What a dope. I hope he gets that contagious rash all over his groin.

FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 2:18 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

It's apparently duplicate post night...

[This message edited by tryingagain74 at 8:19 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]

FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 2:29 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

What ruinedandbroken said.

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