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2 years ago, I would have read that crap and rugswept whatever the issue was...and we would be off again on our codependent bullshit.

Now, no way.

If he gave me my fucking dog back maybe I'd start thinking of him as close to resembling a fucking human being.

I lost all respect for him the day he broke into my house.

Your response back to him was more than he deserved.

You are one classy lady!

Better than he deserved

^^THIS. So much better. You are a good and decent woman.

I also agree with TG about "(please don't sue me)".

No more responses.

There are no fish in this pond. This pond has no water. Fuck off.

I would love to say this wouldn't be a mind-fuck for me but I would be lying. Just reading that felt like a punch in the gut. I almost threw up. I'm so sorry you had to read it.

((((Tesla)))) I much prefer it when they being invisible. Next best thing is when they are being fucksticks.

Be the dad that my kids deserve. That's the only thing I want from you - that is the only thing that would help me stop dripping with regret about choosing so poorly for them.

Fuck.That.Guy. Fuck him right to hell. Fucker.

[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 9:32 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]

Wow. They really follow the WS Handbook all the way down, don't they? I heard all of those EXACT words from XWH (minus the "don't sue me" whining) in the last year or so. Before I stopped responding completely, I would generally text back and say something like "When you learn how to stop lying, maybe we can talk"....knowing, of course, that he will never stop because he actually believes the bullshit he spouts (you're a wonderful woman, etc).

You nailed it. Great response. Much nicer than I would have wanted to be. And I wish he'd give that damn dog back. He probably doesn't even remember "stealing" Mosely.

You have amazed me with your strength, Tes. Way to go, sister!

Unbe-freakng-lievable. I was personally TICKED for you as I read this. He says he loves you and hopes you can reconcile in the same breath as he says please don't make me pay you? While he talks about life with StripperWhore and OC? Wait, did he mention StriperWhore? No, he didn't. He talked about taking Teslet ALONE and that he wants you two to be friendly but no talk of StripperWhore. Hmmm, methinks something could be amiss in rainbow/sparkle/fart land

What a pathetic diseased windbag.

Ugh, he's HOPELESS.

I could barely stand to read it. It's too familiar to me, and it reeks of my own old co-dependent marriage to a SA NPD.

Your reply was perfect. A little too nice for me, but I think you're further ahead in your healing and your new life than I am!

Thanks for posting it.

You have class. Period.

I hope you are high-fiving yourself right now.

(And I love the interpretation by TA74.)

[This message edited by Iamhappytoday at 10:43 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]

He doesn't get how drastically his infidelity changed me. He has no idea what he is dealing with anymore. So he tries the same bullshit because it always worked before. Always. It makes me sick to think I would always roll over and then feel utterly hopeless that nothing in our relationship would change. The two years leading up to D-Day, I cried every night. Every. Fucking. Night.

He's right, I will never forgive him. My heart is hardened toward him. And I can live with that. But I can still deal with him on a professional level to raise our son.

But this bullshit text isn't about that. It's about his need for validation. It's about his need to appear as a generous, benevolent provider. Hard to keep telling yourself that you are generous and benevolent when your ex-wife is taking you to court to pay money you owe. It's also about his fantasy that somehow the universe will bring us back together and I will accept and raise OC. Fuck that noise, I am not that doormat anymore.

I tried to read it. I really did try. I couldn't finish it, though.

The two years leading up to D-Day, I cried every night. Every. Fucking. Night.

Me too, friend. Me too.

We've been through the hard stuff - we're still dealing with our shit but the worst of it is thankfully behind us.

For them? The worst is all around them. They are living in the eye of the storm even if they are too stupid to realise it.

It is ALL so familiar. Lets remember that just as recently as July I had my court date with my ex poopsmear who just might be exshats twin, and I actually got a nice fat judgment against him. Of course, I'm still waiting on that to get paid, but the judge gave him until the end of November to do that. In my case, the situation has been dragging along like this with underpaid support for years and I would always hear the same "I'm not doing anything wrong and you will owe me money if you pursue this and I can help you out if this is about the money" blah blah blah bullshit.

It was in large part to reading here on SI that I had to strength to not engage in the communication and stay strong through very stressful court proceedings and the months/weeks/days leading up to that so that I could get what I was owed and not roll over like you speak of.

Stupid fucker. May he catch the rash from hell and his dick fall off. FTG

Perfect response Tesla, you nailed it. What an amazing, strong and classy gal you are.

Teslet is very blessed to have you as a momma.

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[This message edited by HurtsButImOK at 2:00 AM, September 12th (Thursday)]

Here is what I read, "I, I, I, I, me, me, Please don't sue me, I, I, I, me, me, me..."

Your reply really was perfect. I mean, since a hot poker up his ass wasn't really an option. FTG is right.

I don't post much and can't really add to the thread but still wanted to throw my voice in here. I have been following your story Tesla (i also have a young son and our ddays are close to each other) I think you handled that perfectly. You are so strong!! Good for you for not falling for his crap anymore. That mail was all about himself and nothing about you or Teslet.

As for forgiving. Forgiveness is overrated in my opinion. Some things can be moved past but never forgiven...

That was the most bipolar piece of craziness I have read.

"I love you. I'm sorry and I take responsibility for everything. I want us to get along. Also, if you sue me I'm going to countersue your ass off."

Question - does his head ratchet around in circles when he talks?

Uhgggg, I concur FTG.

Amazing, simply amazing the depth of selfishness in some people.

I have a daughter now that I cherish, Teslet's little sister and I have irrevocably changed the course of our lives. I know you will not forgive me, but it is my deepest desire that we can somehow find a way to reconcile for Teslet's sake.

Does he mean reconcile as in real R or as in 'be friends?'????

I read it to mean real R.....and it just made me think of a hamster wheel. R now with Tesla for the sake of Teslet, and then next week R with stripperwhore for OC's sake, and then the next week.....I'm sure you get the picture.....

I hate dealing w/ this kind of crap. You moved on, bozo. Keep walkin'.

That was a TEXT?

His widdle thumbs must be bleeding.

AJ's MOM

Yup. That was a text. He works midnights. I received it at 7am...must have been a slow shift.