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Divorce/Separation :
He's still waiting for my apology...

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 Housefulloflove (original poster member #38458) posted at 1:59 AM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

"When are you going to apologize for the horrible things YOU did?"

I don't know Ex, why don't you hold your breath until I do!

For the record, his most recent list of "horrible" things I did is calling him "evil" once and a "monster" twice when he refused to stop cheating on me. I also kept him up arguing with him about his girlfriend during his EA and PA. Oh and my favorite...I treated him like he was cheating BEFORE he actually had sex with her! It's not cheating if there isn't a penis involved right? The fact that by the time I found out she existed they had already kissed is totally irrelevant because it goes against the point he is feebly trying to make.

But he's right..I really do need to apologize.

"Dear Self,

I'm so sorry you stayed 10 years with this possibly soulless creature. I'm so very sorry that those horrible feelings of dread felt from day one were ignored. I am particularly apologetic that after the first date with him when you told your mother that you weren't interested in a second date that I convinced you that you should give him a second try because he's such a "good guy." I'm so sorry it took this many years to learn the difference between a "good guy" and a silent jackass with a paycheck but now I know.

I will work hard to learn whatever I need to learn to ensure that I never put you in another situation like this again with a "man" like that.

Sincerely,

Me"

[This message edited by Housefulloflove at 8:13 PM, October 28th (Monday)]

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

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Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 2:04 AM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

I second that he should hold his breath while waiting.

DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

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PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 2:39 AM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

Or he can hop on the flying pigs outside while he waits.

divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...

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Pass ( member #38122) posted at 4:22 AM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

House, you don't owe yourself any apologies either. You were trusting, hopeful, and in love. Those are all good things; next time you'll just be a little more wary as well. You'll believe the red flags.

But dude, Asshat is the only one who should be apologizing. Won't happen, of course.

Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.

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gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 6:17 AM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

Oh, ffs.

"When are you going to apologize for the horrible things YOU did?"

BTDT. Many times. Fuck him.

Your apology to YOURSELF is *spot on*.

Lesson learned.

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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tesla ( member #34697) posted at 12:21 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

*shaking head*

what a stupid mother fucker.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 12:42 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

I don't know Ex, why don't you hold your breath until I do!

Hil-arious!!

The sad clown likes to remind me that 'we did this'. I don't remember dipping my wick into any manky, slutty glory hole that was willing to tolerate 2 minute boring sex (I started looking at the clock ).

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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 Housefulloflove (original poster member #38458) posted at 6:29 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

The sad part is that he is totally convinced that everything he says and does makes perfect sense, even if he has to contradict himself in the very next sentence. That's narcissism for you.

The shit that comes out of his mouth is so stupid I get second-hand embarrassment for him when I repeat it to other people. Apparently he wanted to be free to live his life in the most idiotic way possible and he is certainly doing that.

SBB- I've gotten the "we did this" bull as well. When I used to waste my time responding it all instantly became "the past" and therefore irrelevant to what is going on now. Nevermind that he was just using "the past" to prove a point. He doesn't get that I have hopped off that merry go 'round from hell for good.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

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StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 8:22 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

*shaking head*

what a stupid mother fucker.

You gotta love tesla's straight to the point jargon.

Bwahahahahaha, yeah have him hold his breath!

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014

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woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 8:03 AM on Wednesday, October 30th, 2013

I saw this on Pinterest tonight and thought of this thread...

In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 9:05 AM on Wednesday, October 30th, 2013

^^

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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