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confused615 (original poster member #30826) posted at 7:22 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
She told me the day after Thanksgiving.
Stage 4 lung cancer. Small cell carcinoma.
Im not sure what Im looking for. Prayers? Hugs? Support? Advice? Medical opinions? A miracle? Please?
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 7:25 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
(((((((((confused)))))))))
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 7:40 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
(((confused)))
I am so sorry hun. You are in my prayers. 
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 7:43 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
I'm so sorry, C6.
{{{{{hugs}}}}}
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 7:44 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
(((((((confused & mom))))))) Oh, honey.
Sending you and your mom everything I've got.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 7:50 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
(((((confused615)))))
That's the same form my mom had.
Best advice I can give you is become her health advocate, weighing each procedure and proposed treatment very carefully.
She'll need someone in her corner.
AJ's MOM
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 8:40 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
I'm so deeply sorry.
Sending hugs and prayers. We've been through something very similar (swap lung for gastric). Please PM me anytime.
(((confused615)))
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 8:42 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
((((confused)))) I am so sorry. Hugs and SI mojo to you both.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 8:54 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
(((confused & mom)))
I'm so sorry. Saying prayers.
HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 8:59 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
I'm so sorry.
Hugs and prayers, Sweet friend.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 9:04 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
(((confused and mom)))
Sending along my prayers to you and your mother.
hemademesingle ( member #21281) posted at 9:17 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
I am so sorry, it took my dad too
What I can tell you, my dad was 72 when diagnosed, July 13 was day of diagnosis Aug 26 he passed, it was fast for him, he received radiation treatments to alleviate pain, and pain medication nothing for life prolonging procedures as nothing would have helped
I agree with AJ's mom, be her advocate, let her wishes be heard, my biggest concern with my dad became him not being in any pain, I couldn't bare to see him suffer
I spent as much time as I could with my dad, I was lucky that I could, I had known others with this form of cancer and they didn't last long, time with my dad became precious
You and your family are in my prayers,
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 9:22 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 9:24 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
(((HUGS))) I'm sorry. I lost my sister to the same cancer. I hate cancer.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Jules1111 ( member #41463) posted at 9:36 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
Sending prayers for you and your mom. ((((Hugs)))))
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 9:39 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
I am so sorry. It must be frightening for you.
(((Hugs and strength.)))
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 9:46 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 9:47 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
(((((((((((((((((Confused and Mom))))))))))))))))))))))
Just be there to listen. Write down stories, video or photograph as appropriate. Wish I had more video of my Mom.
Praying for a miracle for the two of you
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 9:48 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
((((confused))))
I'm so sorry to hear this news.
Make the most of whatever time you have left together with her. This is such a difficult thing to go through, but it is a gift that you know now and can plan for the end (should this be the end).
Thinking of you and sending you and your mom strength.
((((confused))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 10:48 PM on Thursday, December 19th, 2013
I am so sorry, confused.
Just spend all the time with her that you can.
(((confused)))
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
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