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dmari (original poster member #37215) posted at 11:24 AM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
To pinkyxo, PurpleRose and Tesla,
I did not thank you properly on my previous thread and want to do so now. Thank you so much for listening and for the hugs!!
Update: My son almost committed suicide today. He walked away from the school and was about to jump off the bridge which is an overpass to the main freeway. 
He wrote a suicide note in his iPhone. Then thank God he called the suicide hotline who then called me.
He is in the psych unit. Because he is 15, I had to inform stbx which I did when I got home via email. I am praying that stbx does not make this situation harder for my son or me.
When it rains, it pours.
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 11:31 AM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
Oh honey- I am so sorry.
I hope he can get the help he needs to work through his pain. :( I cannot even image how scary that must be for you. Sending love and strength...
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
*****************************
Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
kg201 ( member #40173) posted at 11:32 AM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
I'm sorry dmari. This is so hard. Just be ready for your ex making this about himself. Think ahead to how you want to respond if he does.
((dmari))
Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
dmari (original poster member #37215) posted at 11:51 AM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
PurpleRose: thank you again. I pray that he will get the help he so desperately is screaming for too.
kg201: Thank you so much for your kindness. Just be ready for your ex making this about himself. Think ahead to how you want to respond if he does. I haven't thought of how to respond ... I'm kinda just praying he doesn't do anything to make it worse.
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 11:51 AM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
((dmari))
I am soooooooo glad he called. Thank goodness he reached out so people, especially you can help.
I hope and pray your X is not ass about this. The good news is the pysch people can keep him away if he upsets your son too much.
How are you? I know your DS is the #1 priority but you were already having it tough. Do you have any IRL support helping you right now? Its OK to take a moment and not keep it together. You're going through a lot.
Lots of ((((dmari)))) healing thoughts for all of you.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 11:52 AM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
((dmari & DS))
I just can't imagine. My mamma heart breaks with yours.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 12:18 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
(((dmari)))
I am so, so sorry. I've sent you a PM.
One hour at a time at this point. Sleep. Eat. DS is in a safe place.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 1:40 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
How awful for your DS and for you, I am so sorry! Try and lean on someone IRL and be good to yourself. It's a heavy burden to fear for your child. Sending you some strength and peace.
Having such a loving and dependable mom who he knows he can trust must really help him at this time, I hope you can take some pride in that.
(((((Dmari DS))))
Klove ( member #42096) posted at 2:03 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
Sending hugs and prayers your way...
"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"
Caretaker1 ( member #42777) posted at 2:45 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
This is awful and just another example the ripple effects divorce has on families. My prayers for peace and comfort to you and your family. I also pray your ex does not respond in a manner described on this post. In times like these, the hope is everyone distinguishes what is happening and compassion and empathy and love lead the way. Please keep us posted.
[This message edited by Caretaker1 at 8:46 AM, April 18th (Friday)]
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 2:52 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
jackie89 ( member #38271) posted at 3:00 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
((( damari))) my heart is breaking for you.
I will keep your son and your family in my prayers.
Tough week at SI!
deena ( member #27275) posted at 3:37 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
That is so awful.
I am so glad it had the better outcome!!
Please take care dmari and son.
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.
devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 3:40 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
Oh Dmari, I'm so sorry. I hope the hospital is able to help him, and I hope he is strong enough to ask them to keep his dad out if in your son's mind he is one of the major stressors. May you all get the help you need.
{{{hugs}}}
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Getting to Happy ( member #35200) posted at 3:55 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 4:26 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Pinkyxo ( member #43095) posted at 4:42 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
((dmari & ds)) I'm so sorry to read this. Thank God he reached out for help.
Sending you strength and continued prayers.
One foot in front of the other!Member since 2004ish?Formerly ZooMa.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:01 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
Oh, honey. ((((((dmari & ds))))))) I'm so very glad he reached out and called the hotline. Poor guy must be in a lot of pain to have considered suicide. He is in the best possible place to get help, and the hospital may have support services available for you and your family as well. Something to consider. I know the social worker at the psych unit my DD was admitted to was a great help for us.
Sending you strength, hon. When it pours, you really need to focus on taking care of yourself. Eat. Sleep. Water. Hang in there.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 5:40 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
((((dmari))))
I hope he has landed in a good place and that you are able to take a moment to fall apart. Super huge hugs and support.
It takes so much energy to hold it together...
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
yestopants ( member #41631) posted at 5:48 PM on Friday, April 18th, 2014
Me: 37
2 amazing kids DS, DD
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