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Here we go again, catty ladies at the gym.

So here goes.

So there's this lady at the gym who I would talk to from time to time who is a gossiper. (Is that a word?)So there are times that I just speak and keep going. When I go to the gym I go there to workout not hang around for 45 minutes talking about people in the gym or talking about work. BORING!

A few weeks ago I go to spin class and I speak to her and she just looks at me and turns her head. OOOOKKKK, no big deal. Then a few weeks later I was in Yoga class and she walks in and doesn't speak and I don't say anything because I think oh well maybe she didn't see me. After class I gather my things and leave and I don't say anything to her because I'm feeling like she is intentionally not speaking.

On Saturday I'm headed to the spin class and she is walking towards me and I smile and say hi and she made a ugly face and turned her head

I'm shocked and now I'm thinking what the hell is her problem?

So how would you handle this? Do I ignore her (I'm very good at ignoring people) or do I ask her what's going on? If I did ask doesn't it look like she's gotten to me? Or should I let it pass for a while and see what happens. IDK

If I had a problem with someone or if someone rubbed me the wrong way I would let the person know, in a nice way of course.

So what say you?

Oh I think I would keep being friendly because it's driving her a little nuts.

Be polite, but don't give her any more space in your head. You guys will never be buddies and leave it at that.

k9

Thx for your replies.

So I should continue speaking to her even though she doesn't speak. I see her every time I go to the gym. She's in her 50's for crying out loud, she needs to get over it. What ever it is.

How do you know this woman outside of seeing her at the gym??

I'd let it go. That's the thing about those gossipy catty people. Eventually you become the target. Whenever I hear someone talking horribly about someone I always think "Hmm.. wonder what you say about me". So apparently it's your turn to be on her shit list. She needs to grow up.. and probably won't. I'd be cordial and file it under "Who the heck cares".

My DD12's fifth grade teacher HATES me. This isn't the time to get into why, but he's an asshole. Unfortunately I see him around a lot (even though DD is no longer in fifth grade). He likes to glare, turn his nose up, etc.

In response, I smile very big, wave, and say in a perky voice "Hi Mr. A-hole!" It drives him crazy.

So I agree with Moo.

Honestly, I wouldn't give her the time of day from here on out, esp. if you don't know her outside of the gym. AND, if she is a gossiper, good riddance!

Smile, wave, say hi and keep going. It will drive her nucking futs!

Good luck! It's hard to be rejected like that, I'm sorry.

K

Do you really care what she thinks or why? Personally, I wouldn't. Just do your thing and don't worry about her.

Do you go to the gym for social interaction, to work out, or both?

I ask that question in all seriousness - because not everyone has the same motivation in something like going to the gym, and what your motivation is will affect how you would best respond.

Thanks my friends..

To answer a few questions..i go to the gym to workout, granted when I'm waiting for a class to start i may strike up a conversation with someone and to be fair when i first met this lady we would talk when i was going to yoga regularly... I've shared some things about my fathers death, his will and my step mother...all of this was last year some time....

.i love to people watch when I'm on the treadmill, elliptical or stair master and i noticed there's one girl she'll talk too for 30 plus mins....maybe she's upset because i haven't "talked" to her in a long time...

We've never spent any time outside the gym so i wouldn't consider her a good friend....

So i guess i shouldn't go out of my way to speak but if we are in close proximity i should smile and say hi, right?

Not sure why I'm giving this issue so head space...

I would encourage you to take the high road on this, and be your normal self, friendly, kind. If she wants to be a raging bitch let her.

At 50 she isn't going to change who she is, and probably 30+ years ago she was the mean girl at high school, and never evolved to a higher being.

Let it roll off you, her loss.

I wouldn't give two shits what her problem is.

I'd probably laugh at her when she made faces at me.

Maybe I'd start quoting "Mean Girls". "On Wednesdays, we wear pink!"

I have no time for that kind of shit.

Thanks tush good point...