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Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 10:08 PM on Sunday, August 17th, 2014
But I got one more thing completed - the two flag cases. For those that remember, one flag was draped over DS at the funeral and one was draped over him as we brought him off the mountain. The Army provided one flag case and we ordered a second one with the cases matching, including the medals and ribbons. Not only because we have two flags, but I wanted each DD to eventually get one of the cases and, if they match, there would be no squabbling down the road. I have put a small label on the back of each to designate which flag came from where. I am keeping the flag that came from the mountain as I have a real need for that specific one.
Still so much more to do and it is impossible to really start to heal until all the "stuff" is done... 
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 10:18 PM on Sunday, August 17th, 2014
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:03 PM on Sunday, August 17th, 2014
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 11:58 PM on Sunday, August 17th, 2014
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
gypsybird87 ( member #39193) posted at 2:40 AM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
((phoenix))
As always I'm amazed by your strength and ability to think clearly at a time when it must be so hard to function at all. Hugs x 1000
Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 5:28 AM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Oh Phoenix, you ARE healing you know. Each step you take might hurt a little or a lot, but you are moving through the process and it's clear to me reading your posts that you are making your way forward.
Thank you for sharing your story. My heart goes out to you, with much love and wishes for peace.
((((Phoenix)))))
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 11:37 AM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Phoenix you are an amazingly strong person. All these things must be so difficult and you are powering on. Please look after yourself too.
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 3:00 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 4:41 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
devasted30 ( member #39439) posted at 7:39 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Phoenix1. heartbroken_kk is right. You are healing. It is happening in small increments, but it is happening. It seems so hard to believe when it hurts so much, doesn't it? You are incredible and an inspiration to us all. Your determination will get you through this and everything else that needs to be done. I think of you often and I know we all really appreciate the updates. Please know that you are in all our hearts.
And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 4:14 AM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
mixedemotions ( member #35810) posted at 6:05 AM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
I second what gypsy said. Everyone else too, but my first thought was the same as gypsy's - to be so thoughtful about the future, so detailed, it really paints a beautiful image in my mind of you lovingly attending to the flags. You take such good care of memories, it's very warm and kind...seems like a beautiful way to honor DS, DDs and yourself.
Me: Former BW, 28
Divorced 10/11/12
He didn't show up for the D...very fitting, seeing as he didn't show up for the M, either : )
"What did not demolish me simply polished me, now the clearer I can see" - India Arie
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