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wishingitwasnt (original poster member #20380) posted at 7:22 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
Thought you all might like to share an email from XWW.
I sure do miss you when it comes time to make decisions. Turns out I'm this kind of indecisive person. We were better as a team. I'm just pretty lame on my own. You were my best friend for 28 years...There's got to be SOMETHING about me you miss?
I’ve been divorced for 5 years and about a month (d-day#1 was 6 years ago). And no, at this point there is nothing that comes to mind that I miss about her.
My youngest turned 18 last month. Child support ended. My oldest had a major falling out with her mother this summer. XWW has periodically pitched a fit and caused some drama with efforts to draw me in via text or email. I usually don’t respond at all. Then other times I’ll get little communications like this. I definitely will not respond.
Her plan to marry a millionaire hasn’t worked out, yet (she actually told my daughter that was her plan to support herself shortly after the divorce). Sadly for her, I am not available. That train left the station five years ago. They’ve already pulled up the tracks and put in a bike trail.
I'm doing ok. 
ChangeMaker ( member #43899) posted at 7:28 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
They’ve already pulled up the tracks and put in a bike trail.
BWAAAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
I'm gonna use this one!
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
DDay - June 2014
DD 2008 & 2011
Divorced April 1, 2015
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 7:42 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
Can you imagine still being with someone who would write this? She is pretty lame, period.
Thefly559 ( member #40268) posted at 7:49 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
wishingitwasnt thank you for this post!
"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"
brokenheartinga ( new member #41142) posted at 7:51 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
Love that quote. So glad to hear
you are doing great.
Now if I could get there.
Forged1 ( member #43418) posted at 7:51 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
Sadly for her, I am not available. That train left the station five years ago. They’ve already pulled up the tracks and put in a bike trail.
I am in awe of your awesomeness.
Me: Former BH
Divorced Q2 2015
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At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.
Do no harm. But take no shit.
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 7:55 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
Wiw!!! So glad to see you, and so glad that you're enjoying the bike trail.
I'm glad that you're doing ok.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 7:57 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014
And you, my friend, are living the dream. We can only hope that your unavailability hurts her as much (or more if that's possible) as you were hurt by her.
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
10yearsafter ( member #43139) posted at 12:14 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014
Oh I would have replied. Is there something you miss about me. Reply "NO not a damn thing"
travels ( member #20334) posted at 12:27 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014
Good to see you Wishing!!!
Guess the grass wasn't greener...
When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.
"After a breakup, the loyal one stays single and deals with the damages until healed. The other one is already in another relationship."
mamazen ( member #42137) posted at 2:04 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014
What a nice post to read! Here's hoping we all can reach the level of wisdom and indifference you have, someday.
Even now, WH will let slip that I am a deeper person than OW, he sees that now, etc etc etc. It just pisses me off. Someday I hope to be able to roll my eyes and look at my own bike path ahead of me.
Thanks for posting.
mamazen
me 57
WH 58
married 19 years
separated since 3/2013 (in house until 8/2013)
D FINAL! Sept 10 2014
D-day Dec 21 2013 (after separation)
2 sons 17 and 13
OW = family friend and WH work colleague, going on m
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:21 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014
Oh, that's rich...
My x wouldn't dare bring up anything like that with me.
He's facing knee replacement surgery and has to navigate a disability insurance claim without the help of a wifey, who used to manage everything (including getting him on a kick-ass insurance plan for his self-employed ass).
He always hated paperwork and bureaucracy.
Too bad so sad. Time for the big boy pants at nearly 55.
Good to hear from you wishing!
[This message edited by FaithFool at 8:23 PM, August 19th (Tuesday)]
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 3:06 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
Badhurt ( member #41947) posted at 3:19 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014
Give her a real answer. Block her for your social media.
Maybe the. She will get it.
Congratulations!!!
stronger08 ( member #16953) posted at 2:39 PM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014
Yeah it really sucks when they get exactly what they thought they wanted. Reality beats the shit out of fantasy, each and every time. 
You cant eat soup with chopsticks.
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 4:00 PM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014
Oh? Poor XWW. Fantasyland not so fantastic anymore? That greener grass is actually spray-painted manure shavings? Such a shame.
Since you dont' often respond, I wouldn't be against a "No, not one thing" kind of a response.
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
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