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Several people have asked me for an update about the wedding. It was perfect...at least to us it was. The weather was perfect. We were married in our favorite park in San Clemente. It was a very small and intimate ceremony. Our friends, her family, and my only family in this world, my DD. I guess now I have more family.

My sweet bride's wedding party was just her, her sister, and my DD. My sunshine girl is a very earthy/hippie girl so she didn't wear a traditional wedding dress. It was white and long but not really a wedding gown. She had a flower tiara (for lack of a better term) and was absolutely beautiful. Her sister and my DD wore matching hippie girl dresses. None of them wore shoes, it was a barefoot wedding...for them. The park is very close to the beach and San Clemente pier which is where we met. Another time I'll tell the story of how we met and how everything grew.

It was a really great ceremony and now I feel like a real family again. We're totally bummed because my/our DD had to go back to Cincy and is back in school. She also sings in a couple of choirs and does voice lessons so she's really busy and we don't talk near as much as I'd like but I'm told that can happen even when your child lives with you so I'll manage.

We're waiting to go on our honeymoon until summer. We want to travel Europe (Ireland, UK, France, Germany, Italy) for 2-3 weeks but NOT during the winter. We're kicking around the idea of inviting DD to go with us. I know we need our 1-on-1 romantic time but I've NEVER been on a family vacation, literally never once in my life. I had a single mom and we could never afford to do a real vacation. The occasional trip up the road to King's Island amusement park was a vacation for us. My wife (that still feels so friggin weird to say) loves the idea. We live alone so we get our 1-on-1 romantic/quality time every day.

Things are going great which makes me feel a little guilty posting about because I read so many people's experiences here where they're in the early stages of having been betrayed and I know exactly how hopeless and just utterly horrific that feels. Their pain really saddens me but I am happy to share anything I learned along the way that helps you survive it.

Anyway, that's it. I'm a married man. I NEVER thought that would happen again. I SWORE it wouldn't. No way I'd open my heart up like that and be vulnerable again yet here I am. I love my wife with all my heart and have become 100% vulnerable to another human being for the second time in my life.

I'm not saying that everyone should make an effort to get married again if you've divorced, but I am saying don't close your heart. You never know who will stroll by as you're chillin' on the beach.

Awesome.

Cheers, CincyKid!

How WONDERFUL!!! Please...don't stop posting!! It was posts like this that gave me HOPE when I first joined here .

ENJOY your new life...you deserve it!!!

Wonderful update, Cincy!

You forgot one thing, however...

To change your signature

This makes me so happy!

Congratulations! Glad you found a wonderful partner and wife, and so happy that your DD is in your life again.

Congratulations to you all! This is such a wonderful update. Thank you so much for sharing. It's nice to read about such joy and happiness.

Beautiful! I love that you call her sunshine girl

Congratulations!!!!!

I was one asking, Cincy. Thanks for the update. After what you've been through and come out the other side you're an inspiration. The depths of despair to this. You've had so many rooting for you. Also, your posts are so thoughtful and rational they assist others who are struggling.

As you and your bride know, marriage takes work. Like a garden it needs care and attention, fertilizing, weeding. Love is an action verb. Your daughter is in your life. She reached out to you. You don't see her as much as you would like (not even close) but she searched you out and is part of your family. I just wish you and your bride and your daughter a new long adventure of love, cherishing and caring.

Fabulous. And I see you changed your signature.

Your story was one of the first ones I read when I came here and it just broke my heart and I am so, so happy for you, please don't ever apologize for being happy again because no one deserves it more than you.

And I'm not even going to fix that run-on sentence!

Congratulations and best wishes to you always.

Thank you for sharing your happiness! All the best to you and your wife.

I recall when you first got here Cincy -- and yeah, I thought based on some of your early posts, you wouldn't be able to get back to a vulnerable place again. And it made sense why.

Losing your family like that - WS takes off with your DD -- while serving your country, just doing your job, was one of the toughest stories I had read here on SI.

The reunion with DD and now getting hitched, well now your last year of working hard to rebuild your world is one of my all time favorite events here among the piles of anonymous people in pain.

Nice work indeed. Congrats again.

Congratulations!!!!

You were one of the first people to welcome me and offer me support when I joined SI, thank you and congratulations on your wedding. All the best in the future for u both

Congratulations! 💑

Congratulations!

Man, it's been so cold here that I don't even go barefoot in my apartment!

In the hope of being the first to mention this: if you're going to be in Europe for 2-3 weeks, you could invite your daughter to spend only part of the time with you. That would get you both the alone time and the family time.

I'm not going to be at all upset if you've already thought of this yourself.

Thrilled form you both! Congratulations!

Congrats to you!!!! Sounds great.

Yours is one of the hardest stories I have read here. Your toughness used to scare the **** out of me

I am so very happy for you and appreciate you sharing such a hopeful message to those still in the early stages. Peace to you and your family!