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heartbroken_kk (original poster member #22722) posted at 7:26 PM on Friday, March 15th, 2019
I'm posting this as a request to old timers, medium timers, and newbies alike. Sometimes we get a thread or two on this forum that seem to take on lives of their own, and become a bit, shall I say, captivating? This allows some of us to become very engaged with the member's story.
Nothing wrong with that.
But, there are others here hurting. If you only have a little time to spend each day at SI, please consider stopping in on some of the newby threads that have only a few posts, and offering a comment of support for that member.
Spread the love around. So many hurting hearts. Not everyone is able to type out their story in an engaging way. People are shy, or just tongue tied, but they've taken the step of creating a new topic and posting. Please help where you can.
Sending hugs all around ((SI newbies))
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
manofintegrity ( member #69550) posted at 7:31 PM on Friday, March 15th, 2019
I agree completely. Try bringing up infidelity or child sexual abuse on Facebook. It was just crickets. It is difficult to get society to discuss these important issues.
Indecisive1 ( member #70009) posted at 2:45 AM on Sunday, March 17th, 2019
Thank you for writing this! As a new comer here, I desperately want to hear from those who have been through similar situations. It’s so hard to share with friends do and family who don’t understand the emotions.
AMillionReasons63 ( member #69544) posted at 11:04 PM on Sunday, March 17th, 2019
Thank you for the reminder!
BS (me) 56
WH 50
Married 2002
No children
DDay #1 16 Aug 2013 (2 days after anniv)
DDay #2 31 Oct 2013 (23yo fr his outpatient grp Not sure EA or PA - lots of texting)
DDay #3 5 Jan 2019 (MCOW)
DDay #4 15 Feb 2019 (same MCOW)
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 11:05 PM on Sunday, March 17th, 2019
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 4:02 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2019
I think one of the reasons some posters get tons of suggestions is because there is belief that there is a solution. Some suggest R and others suggest D. In some cases the bs has so much to deal with that helpful posters don’t know how to help. No one wants to feel as if their sadness is being overlooked. I try to read every newcomer but sometimes I have no idea what to write. I guess we should at least acknowledge by a simple “Sorry you are here. Welcome. Read The Healing Library”.
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
maise ( member #69516) posted at 5:02 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2019
Will make sure to contribute more 
I’m glad you posted this encouragement to spread love and support. (Hugs to all)
BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
ThisIsSoLonely ( Guide #64418) posted at 5:53 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2019
I will try to post more in here as well (since sadly I'm an old timer on in the fact that I was a lurker for over a year)...but in here a month seems like a lifetime anyway. In that respect, I'm ancient.
You are the only person you are guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with. Act accordingly.
Constantly editing posts: usually due to sticky keys on my laptop or additional thoughts
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