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Re-opening of divorce court?

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 barcher144 (original poster member #54935) posted at 3:47 PM on Monday, May 18th, 2020

My divorce trial was scheduled for the first week of April, but the COVID-19 pandemic nixed that.

The latest that I have heard is that the court might start scheduling divorce trials starting in mid-October.

Anyone else know what is happening in their locations?

Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.

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hcsv ( member #51813) posted at 5:33 PM on Monday, May 18th, 2020

Modifications are delayed indefinitely. It's been two years since I originally filed.

After 40 years, ex turned into someone I didnt know and couldnt trust anymore. Divorced. 1/17

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Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 8:33 PM on Monday, May 18th, 2020

My youngest filed for her D in Feb. Courts here were about 45 days out for initial hearing at that time. Then pandemic shut everything down. DD just received a letter from the court offering free telephonic mediation, and if both parties agree and they can arrive at agreement, they will have a rubber stamp telephonic hearing with the judge to sign off at the end of May. DD was thrilled because until the letter came there was no end in sight and she wants this over.

Courts are shutdown for the foreseeable future unless it is an urgent matter or it can be handled telephonically.

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 5:02 PM on Tuesday, May 19th, 2020

Damn Barcher .... I'm sorry to see this, not surprised, but sorry.... I'm sure at this point it probably feels like it will never be done.

Hope you are hanging in there and you and the kids are doing well.

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messyleslie ( member #58177) posted at 7:04 AM on Wednesday, May 20th, 2020

My attorney said that everything that already had a court date was moved to fall - so like september and october and when I talked to her probably a month ago she told me that anything new was being scheduled in spring of next year.

But if you can come to an agreement out of court that judges are signing orders within days and that she has done some mediation via zoom.

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Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 12:08 PM on Wednesday, May 20th, 2020

Barcher, this could potentially work in your favor. Many people are impatient and seek instant gratification. She may just decide to settle "to get it over with." Unless you have huge pending issues that need resolution now, sitting back and waiting, while frustrating, might provoke action on her part.

I know this was true in my case.

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 barcher144 (original poster member #54935) posted at 8:05 PM on Monday, June 1st, 2020

She may just decide to settle "to get it over with."

Nope. She has basically refused to negotiate since the beginning. She made an initial offer that was completely unreasonable and has refused to budge.

The good news, so far, is that other than the custody evaluation... I have been right about everything so far. She refused to budge on her initial offer of valuation of our major assets... but after appraisals... she was off by $100,000+, which is what I told her.

Prior to the economy shutting down, her attorney basically said that negotiations were over (not that they ever started) and said that we'll just go to court.

I sent her an offer about three weeks ago. Although she saw the message (the software says that she viewed it almost immediately), she has not even acknowledged the offer.

Unless you have huge pending issues that need resolution now, sitting back and waiting, while frustrating, might provoke action on her part.

The huge pending issue is that I am poor because of the judge's temporary ruling from last June.

I am paying STBXW $1000-$1200 per month more than I should (by my estimate) and I am short of making ends meet by about $800-$1000 per month. Right now, I earn double what she makes... but her take-home pay is about double mine.

And, because she is such a sweetheart, she has convinced our kids that I still have all of the money. At first, I was spending "all of my money on my girlfriend." More recently, I am spending "all of my money on my apartment." I'm sorry... I didn't know that I wasn't supposed to have a reasonable place to be a single dad of three kids (each kid has their own bedroom).

Me: Crap, I'm 50 years old. D-Day: August 30, 2016. Two years of false reconciliation. Divorce final: Feb 1, 2021. Re-married: December 3, 2022.

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