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Countingsheep65 (original poster member #56000) posted at 5:14 AM on Friday, July 24th, 2020
The bills coming in just for paperwork, what a frigging joke. I mean really, he hasn’t even been served and I owe $3,000. WTF,
. Crazy. 
Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 5:17 AM on Friday, July 24th, 2020
Sorry but it is a costly journey.
Please seek assistance from the practitioner about instalment payments.
It can’t hurt.
Buffer
LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 9:16 AM on Friday, July 24th, 2020
Shit, yeah!
That’s why my lawyer told me to be smarter in my Divorce than I was in my marriage.
STBXWH has agreed to lodge And pay Divorce proceedings in Court.
WH’s has instructed Lawyer that I will draft our financial settlement and all he needs to do is have it certified, legally binding by a Court.
WH is paying for Divorce as he cheated, he ended marriage and I paid for wedding, so WH is paying for Divorce.
Sounds fair 🙏🏼
September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 1:04 PM on Friday, July 24th, 2020
Does your area/jurisdiction have a legal aid department? If so, you may want to see what services they offer. The research and phone calls to find out are free.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
Anna123 ( member #70908) posted at 1:52 PM on Friday, July 24th, 2020
Sometimes women's shelters will have a legal resource list.
If you expect a decent amount of support, you can let the lawyer know you will pay from that going forward after the retainer. It doesn't hurt to ask for stbx to pay legal bills in the settlement. (My lawyer said they rarely do but it's another bargaining chip that you will have. They SHOULD since they are the one's destroying the marriage!). In the end support usually more than pays for lawyer fees and you won't regret it.
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 3:42 PM on Friday, July 24th, 2020
Search for legal clinics in your area. Legal clinics are usually staffed by last year law students but they are closely supervised by both the court and the school. My sister used them and she only had to pay the court fees.
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
TheLostOne2020 ( member #72463) posted at 4:01 PM on Friday, July 24th, 2020
That's one of the reasons I pushed for mediation so hard. In total my divorce is going to cost me just under 5k.
99problems ( member #59373) posted at 4:44 PM on Friday, July 24th, 2020
It's going to cost me every last penny...
And it's still fucking worth it
Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,
Westway ( member #71747) posted at 10:49 PM on Friday, July 24th, 2020
I'm into it for nearly $10k now. 
Me: 52;
XWW: 50 y.o. serial cheater
Married 22 years, Together 24
2 Daughters: aged 16 and 20
DDay: 9/20/19
Divorced 12/03/20.
Tortured ( member #52141) posted at 1:52 AM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020
I know..... this is like the kick in the teeth after the infidelity...
My legals were in excess of 50k and we only made one appearance in front of a judge and settled after that. My best friend has spent over 150k over the year fighting over the children with her cheating ex. The only reason it’s now stopped is he went bankrupt otherwise it would still be costing her.
There is no comfort... I’m so sorry.... but every single time it hurt I remind myself of how lucky I am I’m not with them.
TorturedMe: BSHim: WH (serial)Three kidsDD: Nov 2015 (and so much trickle truth that I would be listing a month a DDays)Sep: Dec 2016
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