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Divorce/Separation :
2nd husband of OW just called

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 Hurtingnconfused (original poster member #44926) posted at 3:53 PM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020

So for those who missed it, Exwh was chatting with a girl he liked in high school. Watched and listened, recognized the signs. Warned her BS#3 that my then WH and his wife were gonna have an affair. They did. Gave evidence. No one believed me. Got a divorce July 8th snd moved on.

Her 2nd husband shared how she cheated on #1 with him, she cheated on him (#2) with #1 and then she remarried #1 again.... making #1 and #3 the same guy.,,,, Then cheated on #3 with #2!! Follow that? But OF COURSE she couldn’t possibly cheat on 1/3 or #2.... I was obviously crazy. Ok whatever. Not my circus not my monkeys. I THINK #2 was the married teacher she was “dating” In high school and broke up his marriage.

#2 Calls me last night to tell me I wasn’t crazy, that his exww was asking for a divorce to be with my Exwh. He’s devastated. Told me he threw away 10 years of his life waiting on this chick. Wants my Ex’s phone number. um No. Told me he unblocked my number now cuz I’m not crazy and to keep his. Um again, I’m divorced, I only care about getting the house sold and I knew I was not crazy.

#3 paid 130,000 for a surrogate baby due any day now. Asked if she was getting the kid. Was told no. Not sure I believe that as she’s manipulated three men into all believing she’s gonna be with them, only. Thinking on it, don’t care. Exwh is a somewhat good dad and will treat the kid as his own. He has terrible boundaries but loves kids.

So, thinking I should be hurt that he’s ending up with his affair partner. I’m not. I go between laughing as she is used to lots of money and not working .... he has none, and “good for him, maybe he’ll finally be happy.” He lives in his brothers 2nd bedroom in a tiny basement apartment. She’s liking the drama now but once the reality sits in that he has no money, no ambition, and that yes he is wonderfully affectionate, he’s also an alcoholic and pot user. I don’t see this ending well and I just laugh. Guess I’m healing.

Thoughts ??? It just seems too comical to be real

Bought a new couch, popped the popcorn, now we wait for the fireworks, they shall be glorious!!

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nekonamida ( member #42956) posted at 4:13 PM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020

Wow! Amazing that your XWH might become #4. I wonder who she cheats on him with if 1-3 have wisened up. Sounds like a match made in hell.

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Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 4:25 PM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020

What a complete shit show!

I'm an oulier in my positions.

Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.

Divorced

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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 10:01 PM on Saturday, July 25th, 2020

Would make a great Broadway musical!!!

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.

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 Hurtingnconfused (original poster member #44926) posted at 12:13 AM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020

I like musicals! Especially Grease and Mama Mia

Bought a new couch, popped the popcorn, now we wait for the fireworks, they shall be glorious!!

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Ratpicker ( member #57986) posted at 9:53 PM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020

It could be a musical! Mama Three-ia

Road of life is paved with dead squirrels who couldn't make a decision.

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Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 10:22 PM on Sunday, July 26th, 2020

The best revenge, let them make each other miserable.

Glad you moved on. Took me way too long to do that.

DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

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 Hurtingnconfused (original poster member #44926) posted at 2:44 AM on Monday, July 27th, 2020

have hatched an EVIL plot. Think I’m gonna suggest they buy me out of our home so that they can show “stability.” Gotta have a home for that 130,000 surrogate baby. Sell it for the equity, take most of it, suggest they use the remainder for their lawyer and laugh sll the way to the bank. He’ll have his spent in a month.

I’m also gonna suggest, since she’s had 13 back surgeries and can’t work, that they become foster parents ....... they need the income and our 4 bedroom house will be PERFECT for them!!!

I know they won’t get licensed as he can’t stop smoking pot and drinks heavily..., But it would get me out of the house immediately and I could stick him with it!

I know it’s wrong, I know it’s evil, but it does make me laugh. Actually if I was staying here in Montana, I’d keep the house, live in the basement and rent out the top for the whole mortgage payment. If he was smart, he’d jump on it

Still might keep the house, depending on this job offer coming from another state.

Bought a new couch, popped the popcorn, now we wait for the fireworks, they shall be glorious!!

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Tigersrule77 ( member #47339) posted at 2:11 PM on Monday, July 27th, 2020

Your plan is not evil. YOU cannot control his actions, clearly, or he would not have cheated. He makes his own decisions. The fact that you can see the likely outcome only makes you wise. If he chooses to go down a path and make bad decisions, you are not responsible for the outcome. The only way you would be EVIL is if you lied to him or coerced him in some way.

You are proposing a solution that helps you. Whether or not it benefits your XWW is not your concern any more.

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