Pollypocket88 (original poster new member #86990) posted at 11:44 AM on Sunday, February 1st, 2026
Myself & h are trying to R very close to D day still and I was wondering should we ask before checking each other's phones or should we just do it?
[This message edited by Pollypocket88 at 11:54 AM, Sunday, February 1st]
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5Decades ( member #83504) posted at 12:56 PM on Sunday, February 1st, 2026
I do not ask.
As a condition of my agreement to attempt reconciliation and forgiveness, one thing I absolutely demanded was full and complete access to all devices anytime I so desired.
His agreement was that to try to reestablish trust, he would give me free and complete access to all devices anytime I wanted.
I do not need permission to reassure myself that he isn鈥檛 cheating.
5Decades BW 69 WH 74 Married since 1975
cocoplus5nuts ( member #45796) posted at 2:33 PM on Sunday, February 1st, 2026
Which one of you is the cheater? The BP doesn't need to ask. They can look at anything any time they want. The same rules don't apply to the CP. The CP does not get the same considerations as the BP.
BackfromtheStorm ( member #86900) posted at 3:14 PM on Sunday, February 1st, 2026
Myself & h are trying to R very close to D day still and I was wondering should we ask before checking each other's phones or should we just do it?
Who is the BS and who is the WS? Have you both cheated each other?
The person who lost the trust is the one who should agree to full transparency, that is if they are wanting to R with their BS (and the BS gives that chance to the WS).
Is not a rule out of a book, is common sense, if you betrayed me and want to redeem yourself, show me you are open to do ANYTHING to regain the lost trust.
Because betrayal kills trust, forever if there is no a long process of slowly regaining it.
You are welcome to send me a PM if you think I can help you. I respond when I can.
