KitchenDepth5551 (original poster member #83934) posted at 4:35 PM on Thursday, March 5th, 2026
I was on reddit and saw yet another post today about someone congratulating themselves on calling an older person "young lady" and giggling and thinking that it's a complement.
I HATE that. I recently turned 60. I'm ok with that. It beats the alternative. Yesterday I did my normal routine. I went to the gym mid-morning and lifted weights and did cardio with all the other Q-tips (my affectionate term for my fellow distinguished white-haired ladies and gentlemen). Then I went to the grocery store that has a senior discount. I live in a college town. The cashiers often make those cute remarks when you buy wine or beer. Are you old enough to buy that? Ha ha. Last time I stared them directly in the eye and asked if they need to see my id. I was in a bad mood. This time I said I sure hope so. Really. I can't imagine going back to be 20 and having to do it all over again. I'm retired and financially secure. I love my family and friends and life. My ass is a little saggy though, and the skin on my forearms feels oddly crepey. Anyway, I know their comments are meant well. It still sucks.
I saw an interview with a female celebrity several years ago talking about this. Maybe it was Jane Pauley. She said it's mainly women that get these comments. She knows she's not young. That's ok with her. She doesn't understand why a person pointing out that the first thing they notice about her is that she is old should be a complement. I agree. I've read younger men now are often insecure about their height. I don't go around addressing short men as Mr. Tall Man. Why would you do that?
I'm under no illusion that I look younger than my age. Just stop it already. This is just a rant and me screaming into the void.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 6:15 PM on Thursday, March 5th, 2026
Interesting viewpoint. But it’s something that never bothered me.
When you have kids, anything over 18 is old 😂. I’ve been " old" a long time.
Half the time the cashiers at the supermarket don’t even say anything to the customer. No hi or good morning - NOTHING! So if they called me young lady - I’d laugh at it and take it for what it is.
But that’s just me.
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KitchenDepth5551 (original poster member #83934) posted at 9:15 PM on Thursday, March 5th, 2026
Yes. I understand that.
Several years ago, 10 or a little more, I took my son and his friend to a movie. They were 13 or 14. I was in my late 40s. I jokingly asked for 2 children's ticket and 1 senior. The guy started to ring it up, and I told him I was joking and it was 3 adults. I asked if he noticed anything, and he said that they looked a little young to get a children's discount (12 and under). He said nothing about me. My son told me, "To be fair, he's probably a high school kid who doesn't care about his job or how he rings up the tickets." Fair enough.
A few years ago, my son and his friend asked about our gym membership. We've been paying a family membership for 2 children including him for many years. I told him his card was current, and they could try using the other one for his friend. We've been paying it for years, and I thought that was fair. Then I said that I thought the cut off age for the family was 21. They were both a few years older. They were offended and surprised that I would think they could pass for under 21. I told them that if they could tell me if the person checking them in was closer to 45 or 65, I would understand their viewpoint. It's hard for me to tell young ages now. I know they can't tell.
