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still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 2:25 PM on Tuesday, April 2nd, 2013
Good advice, good perspective, especially for newcomers to SI who are dazed and confused and clinging to a leaking PFD.
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 2:31 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 9:56 AM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 2:47 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 7:25 AM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 7:30 AM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
Ditto to every point. It is so hard to realize this when you are in the midst of everything but these points are so valid.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 4:52 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
hard_yards ( member #23549) posted at 7:31 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...
myperfectlife ( member #39801) posted at 8:42 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
wish I would have had this in April...
I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13
RoadtoPeace ( new member #39141) posted at 11:09 AM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
me - BS
him - WH
Married 5 1/2 years
Dday#1 - 10/2009
Dday#2 - 3/2013
Status - He wants R, I am not sure I can get on that ride again
Phoenix9 ( new member #39733) posted at 5:28 AM on Sunday, July 28th, 2013
Wow. Just wow. Being almost a year from DDay #2, I soooo wish I would have had access to this 6 years ago.
BUT! There's no time like the present, right? 
Me (BS): 36 Him (WH): 35
Married 12 years (Each other's 1st)
Children: 9, 8, 6, 3 and 1 month
DDay#1: March 2008 EA turned PA (kissing, holding hands)
DDay#2: August 2012 (ONS with kissing on lips and certain body parts)
Hoping for true R.
HurtButHopeful? ( member #25144) posted at 1:09 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
Resources for R:
His Needs Her Needs, by Dr. Willard Harley
Love Busters, by Dr. Willard Harley
(for husbands) Becoming the Ultimate Husband, by Reb Bradley
hard_yards ( member #23549) posted at 9:10 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...
hard_yards ( member #23549) posted at 9:42 AM on Tuesday, August 6th, 2013
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...
hard_yards ( member #23549) posted at 4:30 AM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
bumping to page one again 
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...
Joyless29 ( new member #39824) posted at 5:22 AM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
Thank you for this wisdom. My WH says he is remorseful, but his actions say differently. He is tying to make me feel sorry for him and at some point it was working. I needed to hear this. I need to keep the course. Thank you.
When life changes to be harder, change yourself to be stronger.
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 2:17 AM on Wednesday, August 21st, 2013
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 6:17 AM on Monday, September 16th, 2013
It still holds true for me.
RRosemary ( new member #40682) posted at 2:08 PM on Monday, September 16th, 2013
Great to read, thank you. I'm going through that 'but if I make him mad, he'll leave me' stuff, even though I'm considering leaving HIM - old habits die hard.
hard_yards ( member #23549) posted at 4:19 AM on Thursday, October 3rd, 2013
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...
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