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shiftingsand ( member #43656) posted at 1:14 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Invaluable advise - hoping I can get my act together enough to follow it.
"This wasn't about you. Or your looks. Or hers. There was no contest and she did not "win." He's just insecure or an asshole or an insecure asshole." Plan C.
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 8:26 AM on Friday, August 22nd, 2014
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 9:32 PM on Monday, September 8th, 2014
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 12:09 AM on Friday, September 19th, 2014
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 1:02 AM on Monday, October 13th, 2014
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
kiki1 ( member #37184) posted at 8:48 PM on Tuesday, October 14th, 2014
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 7:43 PM on Thursday, October 16th, 2014
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 11:50 PM on Friday, November 7th, 2014
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 9:00 PM on Saturday, November 8th, 2014
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:27 PM on Saturday, November 22nd, 2014
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
phantom37 ( new member #45406) posted at 6:27 PM on Saturday, November 22nd, 2014
Bump...
I am one month out from dday #1 and TONS of lies. A metric shit ton of lies. The things I have learned in the past month are incredible. He is a selfish and weak man...didn't know him underneath it all. Maybe I was in denial. I have read this countless times and realize the most couples that reconcile regret it, or continue to live in the pain. Most experience 2nd ddays, third ddays, I just can't stomach it. I wanted to try after finding out about 1st affair, but I know too much now and will always look over my shoulder. I don't feel safe in his arms. He is a stranger to me now, and worse, betrayed me when I gave him my full trust and love and loved him with my whole heart. I just know that things will never to the point where I won't wonder and I can't live that way.
I move out on 1 Dec, can't be in this house or look at him any more. The anger stage is just beginning for me. I have a lot of rage at this point.
Thank you for this advice...I am sure it will help a lot of people.
LearningToRun ( member #31353) posted at 2:18 PM on Sunday, November 30th, 2014
Moving to the top, most helpful advice!
Me: BS 49
Him: WH 54
OW - HS GF, reconnect on FB - They are now M
M- 23 years
DD Sept 2010 - he was lying about meeting and deleting all his texts
D-12/13/2010 - 60 days after i called uncle
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 4:35 PM on Saturday, December 6th, 2014
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
momentintime ( member #16394) posted at 12:16 AM on Monday, December 8th, 2014
BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
UpInTheAirNow ( member #37777) posted at 10:58 PM on Monday, December 8th, 2014
ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.
girlpower ( member #45224) posted at 2:14 PM on Wednesday, December 10th, 2014
phantom 37 - you put my feelings into words. I needed to read that today.
its been an awful 6 weeks - to look at the person that you trusted and wonder how some kind of alien got into your home. He can "say" all the right things, but all of his actions show what a selfish person he really is.
Ready2beFree ( member #45913) posted at 3:40 AM on Friday, December 12th, 2014
Another very helpful post, thank you so much!
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 11:25 PM on Friday, December 19th, 2014
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:20 AM on Thursday, December 25th, 2014
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 8:58 PM on Saturday, January 3rd, 2015
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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