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StillStanding1 ( member #40144) posted at 3:21 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013

Was married with a SAHH (divorced during A) mother of 2. President of a non-profit that helps struggling HS students finish while learning a trade. Obviously a wonderful woman.

Me: BS50s Him: WH50s
M 25 years - DD DS DS
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday - 2/13, S for 1 year, now R

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Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 3:28 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013

She works for a major grocery chain. Owns her own home, does pretty well

herself and kids. I'm a sahm, bothers me that she's so independent and I'm not. I think he's attracted to her independence.

BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 7:23 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013

She was/is a bored housewife who went looking for fun on Ashley Madison and found XWH. The irony is that in her pursuit of excitement, likely unbeknownst to her at this point, she's only found more of the same-- a mundane existence with a guy who will likely annoy, bore, and gross her out once the initial sparklies wear off. She's the embodiment of the Myth of Sisyphus...

FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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tryinginmi ( member #29358) posted at 7:43 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013

She was the HS that all the boys used as a cum dumpster at every HS party. She did not change as she grew older, just became more needy. She became the company slut, but you would never guess it to look at her.

Me - BW 40
Him - FWH 39
Her - MOW 47 Fat Assed Toothless Man Faced Whore!!!

DD#1 July 28, 2010 Admitted to EA. A went underground.
DD#2 August 19,2010 Admitted PA

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tryinginmi ( member #29358) posted at 7:43 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013

She was the HS that all the boys used as a cum dumpster at every HS party. She did not change as she grew older, just became more needy. She became the company slut, but you would never guess it to look at her.

Me - BW 40
Him - FWH 39
Her - MOW 47 Fat Assed Toothless Man Faced Whore!!!

DD#1 July 28, 2010 Admitted to EA. A went underground.
DD#2 August 19,2010 Admitted PA

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crazycatlady ( member #12849) posted at 8:41 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013

Nurse for developmentally disabled adults and now jailhouse nurse. Total whore. She was Screwing my husband while married to her second husband AND flirting with her now fiancé.

Class act. :

[This message edited by crazycatlady at 2:42 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)]

Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.William Shakespeare "All's Well That Ends Well"D-Day: Nov 30, 2006"For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night." William Shakespeare

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meplusfour ( member #38958) posted at 9:49 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013

Engineering tech.

BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."

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selkiescot ( member #23777) posted at 9:49 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013

Weel besodes sleeping with married men, many married men. I think she is a book keeper. She was arrested for prostitution but not charges.

The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

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HurtButHopeful? ( member #25144) posted at 10:28 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013

OW was the 34 year old married daughter of WH's pastor! She had seduced a man in her father's church before, and he let her stay and do it again with my H. She led worship dance at the church, and cleaned houses for money.

Resources for R:
His Needs Her Needs, by Dr. Willard Harley
Love Busters, by Dr. Willard Harley
(for husbands) Becoming the Ultimate Husband, by Reb Bradley

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StruckNumb ( member #38973) posted at 10:53 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013

Mine's a wealthy working mother (in high tech industry). She came from a wealthy Chinese family (parents work in the Chinese goverment), but she acquired even more wealth when she conducted a long-term affair with the co-founder/president of a company my husband use to work at. She use to go on long lunches with the president, never returning to work, and at company parties, where his wife and kids were present (the wife also worked at the company-my husband was a token white guy there), she would boldly leave with the president with no shame. She was a known shameless whore before she was my husband's whore

Way back when, when I brought it up, my husband said it was part of the Chinese culture. I thought it was disgusting but, like a complete idiot, had no problem with him being friends with her. I thought he had integrity, morals, that's who I thought I married, a man of honor. But a whore is a whore is a whore and, years later she moved on to my husband.

me-BW-51
f?WH - 49
m27 yrs, T 28, no kids
OW-WH's former CW, friends + 20yr
DDay-11/16/12, LT EA, 4y? PA, manymany
EA with FFriends over the years
Attempting R
Is there an end to blindness in sight?

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doubleboggy ( member #40622) posted at 9:06 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013

AP #1 Prison Guard

AP #2 Perpetually unemployed loser

D Day: 3/31/13

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smittennomore ( member #38150) posted at 9:19 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013

AP is a prosecutor, as was my husband until I had him choose his job or me. The affair was outed publicly, and she was demoted.

I still wish they had just fired her, I mean come on, WH and MCOW were having sex in public buildings on the tax payers dime!

Me (37): BW
Him (33): WH (1sorryGDF)
D-Day: 12/19/12
DD: 3yrs old
DS: Almost 2!!
2 yr EA/PA
Working hard towards R with IC's/MC
Slowly... but getting there

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uniquenewyork ( member #30811) posted at 11:41 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013

I'll focus on the last two.

Om#1: city worker

Om#2 (most recent): coworker. In the media business. Radio. They are a special breed. I think that the reson they get into the business is for the attention--or part of the reason. Validation. Being a public figure. Before we got married, my WW cheated on me. I went to IC. My C used to be in the business and he basically warned me about people in radio. I didnt listen.

Me(BS): 45/Her(WS): 45
S:12,D:9,D:7
Affair with OM#1 before we were married.
Couple day fling w/ OM#2
Me as a WS: late '07-early '08.
EA/PA with OM#3: 2/16/09 (many D-days after, broken NC.)
EA/PA with OM#4: Found September '10; PA

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brokenniceguy ( new member #39195) posted at 12:04 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

A PhD scientist for a major drug company in Europe.

A shitty dad too as the affair started after his first kid was born and the last time he screwed my wife (or so I have to believe) was about a month after the second kid was born.

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still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 12:41 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

#1 - bar skank friend sold stuffed toys, our DD's babysat for her

#2 VERY desperate fat pig-in-a-blanket nothing!!!! Her H didn't even live with her and their problem kids. Lapped it up as my H searched her out (he had betrayed me with her in HS). Once I saw her pic I knew why she thought she was special. Can you say BARF??!!!!! How special can you be if all you get for 3 yrs is a long distance EA?? Oh yeah I think she had no job.

Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23

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wanttofeelwhole ( member #31830) posted at 2:38 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

Waitress, actually thought there would be more.

Sorry I don't edit the typos
Love is giving someone the power to destroy you...but trusting them not to.-Unknown
For every good reason there is to lie, there is a better reason to tell the truth.-Bo Bennett
Memory is a complicated thing, a rel

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bestbecameworst ( member #31507) posted at 2:43 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

Social worker.

Me: BS
Together since 1997, married Jan 2010, EA started Feb 2010, PA June 2010
D-day1 Oct 20 2010 / D-day2 Oct 21 2010 and following week / found this site Mar 2011
He didn't do work to reconcile.
DIVORCED in 2014 and HAPPY!

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ok4now ( member #35896) posted at 3:04 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

Associate Principal at a High School.

BS - 45 (me), WS - 39, DD - 11
Separated (under the same roof) - 5/18
WS- moved out 8/20 (thank god)
D Day’s - 6/2/11 EA (would have been a PA if the OW was game), 2/9/17 EA work colleague, 4/12/18 PA his assistant of 10 years

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Artemisia ( member #40564) posted at 3:06 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

Also a social worker. Interesting.

She is a co-worker of his. They are together now.

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Mom4ever ( member #40516) posted at 3:09 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013

Someone I thought was my friend, one of our children's best friend's moms....

BW - me 59 & WXH - 52
Married - 24.5 yrs. Engaged - 2 yrs. Dated - 2 yrs. 2 DSs and 1 DD
D-Day - 6/13/2013. Divorced 12/10/2015.
I lived. I loved. I lost. I SURVIVED by the grace of God! Actions never lie. Words do! Choices have consequences.

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